"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So, I just went on a date with a girl I matched on Tinder. Now, there I only saw face pics só I knew there was a danger of the rest not being as appealing, which happen to be the case. I didnt feel attracted to her when I met her, but since it was only a coffee date close to my place and only spent 2 euros on it Im not too worried about it, but i do have a question for you guys , If you find yourselves In the same situation do you still game the girl as practice for the next one or you just bail out after 15 mins?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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With me it depends on how bad the false advertising was. If it's a little or moderately across my attraction threshold I will hang with her anyway for a little while. But if its an all out sham, like the girl who once had a pic when she weighted 140 lbs and in real life she was 400 easily, I won't waste my time on that. adios' gorda'.
 

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Tell her that if she wants to chill again she's going to have to buy you a shawarma and run you a sloppy blowj0b, otherwise you got sh1t to do.
 

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IMO if you find yourself on a first date with a liar, tell her you dont appreciate being lied to, how she lied, and leave. Many times these chicks will accuse you of being shallow but fvck that! Honesty is the backbone of relationships and if she cant be honest about who she is and find someone who in into HER, she doesnt understand what a realt relationship is.

I know I sound harsh but I give you permission to do this. When you dont you encourage the lies to continue. My completely self serving motivation is that I pay for these lies. I represent myself on dating apps as exactly who I am, face, body, all. I get men who think i'm lying or gaming or something because of these other women. They also wait for my crazy to show. i dont have any crazy, but, sine the other women do, i get lumped into that. Very frustrating. I have to prove that I am NOT something.

Please consider telling her you are not interested in meeting a liar, and leave.
Thanks
 

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IMO if you find yourself on a first date with a liar, tell her you dont appreciate being lied to, how she lied, and leave. Many times these chicks will accuse you of being shallow but fvck that! Honesty is the backbone of relationships and if she cant be honest about who she is and find someone who in into HER, she doesnt understand what a realt relationship is.

I know I sound harsh but I give you permission to do this. When you dont you encourage the lies to continue. My completely self serving motivation is that I pay for these lies. I represent myself on dating apps as exactly who I am, face, body, all. I get men who think i'm lying or gaming or something because of these other women. They also wait for my crazy to show. i dont have any crazy, but, sine the other women do, i get lumped into that. Very frustrating. I have to prove that I am NOT something.

Please consider telling her you are not interested in meeting a liar, and leave.
Thanks
This girl didnt lie, it was more of a gamble from my side since she only posted face pics (which looked nice) but not body pics.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This girl didnt lie, it was more of a gamble from my side since she only posted face pics (which looked nice) but not body pics.
True, very true. Then what I said has no relevance to this post, but please consider it next time something like this happens
 

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This is what I don't like about blind and on-line dating. I would never ask anyone out that I wasn't attracted to. Frankly, I would not know how to behave on a 'date' who I had no idea about. Men really can't do this properly because we are visual, we know IMMEDIATELY if we are interested. My guess is you would know as soon as you saw her if you wanted her.... at least that is how it works for me. Her attitude, personality and sense of humor will keep me around longer, but I will know right away if anything is going to happen.

So to answer your question, no. I would be polite and friendly, and see if maybe there might be some business opportunity or something else, but I wouldn't pretend to pursue anything romantic if nothing was there.
 

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You have to be rounded. This should be your goal.

Which means when you find yourself in situations that are not pleasing, you still manage the situation.

In this case, you carry the date like you would with any other girl.
Brush up on your convo skills. Brush up on your pretense skills. Brush up on your pedestal mentality. Brush up on your seduction skills without fulfilling the girl's desire.
Brush up on other part of your game that needs work. Kiss close (always kiss close) and never respond back.

There's nothing holding you back, you can really afford to blow the date, dare things you wouldn't necessary do when you have shaky hands, out with a dime.
If you struggle to kiss close half way through the date, here's you chance.
If you struggle to sexualize convo 5minutes into the date, well here's your chance.
You already have nothing to lose.

She's human too. Not that her emotions should matter to you, but when you're in these situations you don't just run, you bring out your manly leadership skills and learn a thing or two from her.

Every date shouldn't lead to a lay but each date should improve you.

Every interaction with a woman is an opportunity to improve you.
 

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That girl might not have exactly lied, but she was deceptive/misleading on purpose. That's how women roll, they know exactly what they are doing when it comes to stuff like this.

Better screening up front is the correct way to handle this. When in doubt ask for a body shot. You'll never have to ask a hot girl with a nice body for a body shot pic, she'll always have a few on her profile!
 

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You have to be rounded. This should be your goal.

Which means when you find yourself in situations that are not pleasing, you still manage the situation.

In this case, you carry the date like you would with any other girl.
Brush up on your convo skills. Brush up on your pretense skills. Brush up on your pedestal mentality. Brush up on your seduction skills without fulfilling the girl's desire.
Brush up on other part of your game that needs work. Kiss close (always kiss close) and never respond back.

There's nothing holding you back, you can really afford to blow the date, dare things you wouldn't necessary do when you have shaky hands, out with a dime.
If you struggle to kiss close half way through the date, here's you chance.
If you struggle to sexualize convo 5minutes into the date, well here's your chance.
You already have nothing to lose.

She's human too. Not that her emotions should matter to you, but when you're in these situations you don't just run, you bring out your manly leadership skills and learn a thing or two from her.

Every date shouldn't lead to a lay but each date should improve you.

Every interaction with a woman is an opportunity to improve you.
Good advices Stevo, thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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