"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bad Boys

zekko

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For those of you who consider yourself "bad boys", what attributes do have that make you a bad boy?

Don't say things like "I'm a confident guy who doesn't bow down to women" since those are positive traits. I'm wondering what you do that is morally, or legally, wrong that conveys that you are a bad boy.

I remember Lexington said that "bad" in "bad boy" really means badass, as opposed to "not good". And I think he had a good point, but I still think there is a negative connotation to the term bad boy. When a girl thinks of a bod boy, I think there is an implication that he is trouble, or is in trouble, in some way or other. Some girls go for the "thug", which is related.

So what evil deeds do you do to convey that you are a bad boy?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The_411

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Zekko,

I'm not a bad boy but my neighbor is he's a few year younger than I, but his bad boy behavior is reinforced by the fact he has a criminal record (busted for making fake IDs), deals coke, has fiancee but is still actively pursuing women and hooks up fairly often. I've hung out mostly with him but also with both him and his fiancee and he's very standoffish with her, teases her constantly, puts her down, and generally seems to be trying to get away from her most of the time in public. He's ultra competitive always telling you how he's great at xyz and when he doesn't live up to his self hype the excuses come out.

The thing is if you were to just meet him causually you wouldn't think he's a bad boy but then you realize he's engaged but basically acts like he's single 99% of the time.

He's even trying to flirt when his fiancee goes to the bathroom.

He's also a big networking guy knows a lot of people and people known him. He'll also do coke just about anywhere and typically ends up doin lines off of girls's bodies.

He not rich and he's not at a job that's really going anywhere or that's intellectually challenging.
 

omkara

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I doubt there's many on here. But yeah it would be cool to hear some stories because it's something I don't know much about first hand.
 

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One of my uncles, who's a natural with women, is a bad boy. I know he's a very good smuggler and had plenty of connections in that world before he & his mates made rich in EE & Russia, and turned legit businessmen. He settled down after that (still refuses to marry his long term Polish partner, despite having 3 kids together, and he used to nail her sister as well), but while he was in his bad boy phase, he nailed numerous girls, all good, family oriented ones too, around EE & Russia. He has about 8 illegitimate kids in various countries, but only acknowledges 5 of them which he paid child support to. He's a 5'4" Asian guy, somewhat cute looking, very tight with money (so it's not like he's spending anything on them up front, but he's very generous to friends and lovers), but with plenty of charisma and a real badboy record. He has a way of bringing out the maternal instincts in women, they couldn't help but try to nurture his wounds and fix his issues - and one of the "fixes" is banging him, I suppose.
 
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