"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bad bad bad...

t0mCaT

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I screwed up.

Got so insecure yesterday cause I found my gf talking quite a bit to some guy. I knew this guy liked her... everyone knew that... I confronted her with it and she got really upset that I didn't trust her.

Then to top this short sad story off, I branded myself a bit of a Loser by calling that guy, and pretending to be someone else. Asking him if he was her boyfriend. (This I did before I confronted her) Trying to find out what he was doing with her...

Then I find out from her friend - she went to him to talk about me :-/ Cause he also owns a PC store. And she was trying to get me a gift. It was a 5.1 headphone set :-/

Oh, the shame! So what hope is there? Really? I've embarrassed her and myself now with this insecure jealously. Cause I forgot to turn off my caller ID when I called :-/ And he told my gf that "there's some guy asking if I'm your bf".


Ehhh... so what to do now? Just resume as normal? Be a man? She's laughing at me finding all this jealously awfully cute :-( How do you make yourself feel better? :-/ Regaining composure is not very fun.

Thank god the internet is anonymous.

PS. Someone gimme the AFC of the year badge.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You can get it back, brother. You just need to steel yourself to jealousy and not show it again. Let this incident slip into the past, don't mention it again and never, ever show your jealousy again. In fact, it might work to your advantage. The next time something comes up and you don't get jealous she'll wonder what she did wrong or if you are as interested as you once were.

See? Power back in your hands.
 

t0mCaT

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Thanks :) So just need to resume being my normal self again? *sigh* Been so long since I felt like this. A few years ago I'd apologize and apologize and kiss ass till there was no ass left to kiss.

Ok, I'll just let it slide and learn from it. :)
 
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