"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Backing down from a fight

Zaraza

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Heres my input.

I think you did the right thing for not fighting him. You say that you take martial arts. The whole idea behind martial arts is to attain control of your body as well as your mind. You must realize that your body has now become as weapon.

How old are you? (im just curious).

You are going to get many opinions, some guys will call you a ***** while others like me will say its a better decision to not fight him.

Your girl left you for him? **** that. Why would you possibly want a girl who is like that around you??? On this website we talk about improving ourselves, growing up to be strong and believe in ourselves and yet .... you choose to have the opposite in your "partner/gf/*****/ ho on the side/ whatever you want to call them.

If he had taken a swing at you, or endangered your life... then yes.. knock him the **** out. But please, don't call yourself a ***** or feel like you are a weak man. You are not weak, you are confused and upset.

It doesnt feel good to have a girl leave you (no matter what the reason is). YOU made the decision not to fight, because YOU thought it wasn't the right thing to do at the moment, because YOU understood he was on drugs.... so why the **** are YOU upset with yourself?

the girl would have left you sooner or later. With the little that you shared about this girl, believe me, her leaving sooner is good for you in the long run.

Fight only when they swing first.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MSwrestler

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Zaraza said:
Heres my input.

I think you did the right thing for not fighting him. You say that you take martial arts. The whole idea behind martial arts is to attain control of your body as well as your mind. You must realize that your body has now become as weapon.

How old are you? (im just curious).

You are going to get many opinions, some guys will call you a ***** while others like me will say its a better decision to not fight him.

Your girl left you for him? **** that. Why would you possibly want a girl who is like that around you??? On this website we talk about improving ourselves, growing up to be strong and believe in ourselves and yet .... you choose to have the opposite in your "partner/gf/*****/ ho on the side/ whatever you want to call them.

If he had taken a swing at you, or endangered your life... then yes.. knock him the **** out. But please, don't call yourself a ***** or feel like you are a weak man. You are not weak, you are confused and upset.

It doesnt feel good to have a girl leave you (no matter what the reason is). YOU made the decision not to fight, because YOU thought it wasn't the right thing to do at the moment, because YOU understood he was on drugs.... so why the **** are YOU upset with yourself?

the girl would have left you sooner or later. With the little that you shared about this girl, believe me, her leaving sooner is good for you in the long run.

Fight only when they swing first.
Best post in the thread. You need to realize that actions have consequences. Yes you might of fought and won and felt like a man. But what if you faught and got hit in the head which resulted in death or blindness? What if you fought and killed him, then got sent to jail... It wasn't self defense because he didn't attack you, he just wanted to fight you. Only fight when you a phsically threatened and need to really protect yourself otherwise tell them to smd. Suck my ****=D.
 

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Thank you for your input, I agree with a lot of it. Except for one thing. The only reason I didnt fight him was because of intimidation, I have no problem fighting people, the only fact was hes a bit taller then me and in the past ive had someone of his size get up in my face to try to "help" with motivating me and I took it the wrong way and let my guard down. It was a subconcious thing. Also I look at it this way. If was to follow through with it and kick the kids ass it would help in other areas of my life for the fact I followed through(which is one of my biggest problems). I want to move to NYC but I feel like im running away and that was never me, I never ran away a day in my life and im not going to start now.


Zaraza said:
Heres my input.

I think you did the right thing for not fighting him. You say that you take martial arts. The whole idea behind martial arts is to attain control of your body as well as your mind. You must realize that your body has now become as weapon.

How old are you? (im just curious).

You are going to get many opinions, some guys will call you a ***** while others like me will say its a better decision to not fight him.

Your girl left you for him? **** that. Why would you possibly want a girl who is like that around you??? On this website we talk about improving ourselves, growing up to be strong and believe in ourselves and yet .... you choose to have the opposite in your "partner/gf/*****/ ho on the side/ whatever you want to call them.

If he had taken a swing at you, or endangered your life... then yes.. knock him the **** out. But please, don't call yourself a ***** or feel like you are a weak man. You are not weak, you are confused and upset.

It doesnt feel good to have a girl leave you (no matter what the reason is). YOU made the decision not to fight, because YOU thought it wasn't the right thing to do at the moment, because YOU understood he was on drugs.... so why the **** are YOU upset with yourself?

the girl would have left you sooner or later. With the little that you shared about this girl, believe me, her leaving sooner is good for you in the long run.

Fight only when they swing first.
 

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Here's the first question that came to mind:

Why did your let a drug addict get in the back seat of your truck?
 

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Crissco said:
Shes got the right to, I ****ed up ill admit it. Its the same thing bro I wouldnt want my girlfriend backing down from a fight that needed to happen.
i would... nasty with fighting girls:S
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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