Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I was going to do that a couple of days ago, he was in the back seat of my truck. The only thing stopping me was the fact it was a cheap shot. Yes I know I should of took that shot.Duffdog said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I know exactly what you mean. I know a couple of those type of people my self. Oh believe me she is very confused, I cant say **** though, by posting this thread shows how much I am my self lol. I look at it this way though my confidence is down, and I feel like smashing someones head in, and when I do and when I win, my confidence will improve and I will use that new found confidence to my full advantage.Don Israel said:
LOL Bro for one thank you for your insite, its apprecitated. Two, I aint no b1ch kidd. I just got caught up in the moment, plus the fact we where chillin my basement with cement and weights around us didnt help. Plus I used to box and I took marital arts. You only lost if you let your self lose.NO_BODY said:
Exactly! She said it her self she feels safe around me. But what gets me is when I actaully bring my guard down around other guys and have convorsations she sees it as a sign of backing down..? In my opinion it shouldnt be that way.speakeasy said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thing is, nature doesn't care about our opinions. Women are programmed that way. It's in their genes to seek out dominant men to reproduce with. It's no different with apes or any other animals. Letting women know that you are easily dominated by other men is the kiss of death.Crissco said:
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When animals fight they try to intimidate each other first, usually intimidation works and prevents serious fights. For example a buffalo might bluff and scare the competitor and then get his girl without even fighting.Crissco said:
But yes, this is how people get damaged, never understand what happened, rationalize everything as something else, and live a life of lie all their lives, then being angry at other people for what happened to them.You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Thats the thing bro, I dont run away from my problems. I walk away. Every woman wants to know there guys going to be there when they have children. Ive been told that a couple of times lol but in a way im partially bi-polar, so who am I to judge.Evzone said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.