"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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background check before leasing an apartment

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Is anyone familiar with how a background check that a landlord would perform is done? Like, how extensive is it?

The reason I'm asking is because I'm moving in with a few friends of mine at the end of the month. They already have the apartment, but wanted an extra roommate. I figured, "why not!", and yesterday I had to send in some personal information to the landlord for the application. Some things might raise a red flag, and I'm becoming worried. For example, it asked for my employer, and how long I've been there, but I'm sorta paid off the books, so I might show up as having no work history from the last few years. Also, my current address doesn't match up with my mailing address or the one on my driver's licence (my DL# was also asked for). This is because I live in a bad city, and don't want anything being mailed here, and I've been meaning to move forever, so I never changed the address on my licence. I've just been keeping everything under my parents address, but I gave my current residence as the address.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Work history is big with them, I do know. I've been denied, for not being able to prove income. But, if there are a "few" other names on the lease, who knows. It depends on the apartment. I dont see why you would even need to be on the lease though.
 

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They will probably verify employment via a phone call.

If you gave your social security number, they will probably pull your credit. They'd look for judgments that came from skipping out on unpaid bills, especiall rent and utilities. Most people either pay all their bills or hardly pay them at all, so credit reports tend to be one extreme or the other.
 

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If they just verify by calling, I should be ok.

As for a credit check, my credit is golden.

I guess I'm worrying over nothing.
 

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my friend has an apartment and he hsan't had an "over the table" in years either + his credit is ****
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Your over worrying. They'll likely just follow up with a phone call. They often do so, just so that they have another method to get in touch with you to serve court papers if you ever bounce on them.
 

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when i do a background check , it is in two parts :
1. police report/criminal history/ national registry for sex offenders
2. last 3 years of resident history including evictions and foreclosures
i manage an apartment complex that has section 8 (hud) subsidy.

other places also check credit to see if you owe other companies or places money, and other places may check with your employer to see if you can afford the apartment and with personal references to see if you would be a good resident.
 
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