backed down from a fight

[sifer]

to make a long story short i was on campus with a buddy of mine and got into it with this guy. we got in each others faces and i eventually backed down.

I sort of feel like a ***** about it. at the same time i dont need to get arressted for some bull**** like this. idk i was just seeing if anyone else had some experience with this type of thing.

do you fight the guy or back down???

Good move! Be the bigger man. Violence doesn't solve much except with more violence. You are not a ***** for having self-preservation.

 

[ThreeStorms]

strangely, this happened too me quite frequently during the last months. Totally unprovoked aggression by some drunk ****. They are just looking for a fight. A few years ago, I would have never walked away from someone screaming really bad insults at me for no reason. I feel too old now to fight some 19-year old jackass. It's not worth a broken nose nor a legal process. Don't have time for this ****. Probably the only advantage of fighting is that you have something to boast about.

 

[AAAgent]

some guy choked my friend. I defended him and got the better of the fight. He was drunk/wasted. I went to jail, they mis-id'ed my friend for my brother and he went to jail with me. I paid both our bails. went through the whole court process for a whole year. lost $7k lawyer and bail fee's. was found not guilty on monday.

Was it worth it, definitely not. I lost so many job opportunities after they did a background check but i was given no real option since we did try to leave, we tried to talk him down but he still attacked my friend.

Before I get into a fight i factor a few things:

Is this guy really disrespecting me? If the guy is drunk and wasted, I will still be pissed off about what he said but there's a higher chance i will walk away since he's obviously not saying these things sober. If he's sober I won't back down unless i'm pulled away but I don't start the fight either. Second, you look at what the other guy has to lose. If he looks like his family has less money that you do personally just walk away because you get nothing from the altercation, you have everything to lose and they have nothing to lose.

 

[Derek Flint]

Every situation is different. Can you elaborate a bit more on what happened?

I can usually verbally shred someone to the point where they will walk away with their tail between their legs. I've even had their own friend's laughing at them.

OTOH, if someone throws a punch at you, you have a right to defend yourself to a point, meaning that once the threat has been neutralized you can't kick the crap out of someone once they are down or they are backing away from you.

Check your local and state laws as well as they can and do differ.

98/100 times, if someone wants to fight you, they're not going to talk about it, they're going to do it.

And as mentioned above, it's not worth going to jail over some drunken idiot who grabbed your g/f's ass.

Call the cops on 'em and let him spend the weekend in jail, not you
Or end up getting get kicked out of school.
Let him mess up his future earnings potential with an arrest record, not you.

Over what? Some Friday night, drunken machismo?

Unless someone else throws the first punch, it's all going to be a bunch of yelling back and forth and no one will throw a punch until there are plenty of people in between.

If someone gets in your face for no reason, tell him to grow up, get laid, and chill out.

 

[Boxer]

Actually standing close to someone makes a punch less effective.

 

[Scars]

I've resolved a lot of potential fights by just starring them straight in the eyes whenever they get up in my face. Don't act scared or intimidated, just speak a normal tone. But never lose eye contact. Most of these ended with them saying "get the fvck out of my face" as they then walk away.. I don't necessarily consider that me backing down. It also makes the other person look foolish. Especially if you remain perfectly calm.

I have however been suckered punched into fights before. But because of my calm attitude, any spectators usually always had my side. I've never gotten beat up horribly. Just a few bruises here and there.

Granted, most of my fights always started over petty sh!t. Any time a real issue worth actually fighting for arose I was always able to talk my way out of it.