backed down from a fight

[btownbuck2012]

to make a long story short i was on campus with a buddy of mine and got into it with this guy. we got in each others faces and i eventually backed down.

I sort of feel like a ***** about it. at the same time i dont need to get arressted for some bull**** like this. idk i was just seeing if anyone else had some experience with this type of thing.

do you fight the guy or back down???

 

[Wiesman44]

Life is all about choices. The direction of your life is affected by these choices. Attempting to defy a situation by meeting adversity head-on will get you where ? usually, you'll manifest results that are less desirable.
You can allow conflict to pass without being ensnared in its grasp. You should be less invested in forcing a specific result.

What is the point in fighting this guy ? You are attempting to force your will upon someone that is providing resistance.

Sometimes in avoiding conflict, you often learn the most about yourself.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

Depends on the situation.

If he was saying some odious crap about me or my mother this and that, we'd have to tussle. iIf its some boysome camp bravado out of nothing, I'd walk away and shrug it off.

Everybodies different dude and everybody is capable of doing damage. Remember that. You didn't lose face. You got in his face. Showed your carnalismo. You walked away. Something in your stomach was telling you to punch his teeth out, the other kidney told you to walk away. Its not worth it. Win-Win case. Even if you did get the sh1t kicked out of you, but you stood your ground. That is what will be remembered as apose to backing down, walking away and still getting the sh1t beaten out of you.

 

[Quiksilver]

Avoid petty fights.

If you can walk away, do so. There's plenty of scum in this world who just want to drag you down to into the mud to hurl feces at you.

If someone is legitimately terrorizing you or someone you know then, run away and, call the cops. It always helps to have the jury on your side if anything real goes down.

The only situation where I'd justify fighting is if you fear for your life or the life of another innocent person and there's no 'golden bridge' to escape or way to diffuse the situation. At that point to me it's not fighting anymore, it's neutralizing, and I'd use any tools at my disposal to take care of the threat up to and (very unfortunate) including lethal force. no respect and no mercy.

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I've been in a couple fights back in highschool. Both were situations where trouble came looking for me, I was just minding my own business and I guess some reject was trying to show off to his little piglets how tough he was. I suppose I was passive aggressive, acted arrogant when I was approached.

I was in the wrong place at the wrong time. They were dirty fights, I guess I don't fight fair(blood and broken teeth). I was suspended for a little while for both, and now that I look back on it it was pretty embarrassing to get dragged down to that level by some deadbeats. I could have walked or ran away but I didn't, and now I wish I did.

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Save that aggression for when it really counts. If some deadbeat wants to fight you, just think to yourself what it's over and whether you care that much. Look down on petty fights and see them for what they are ... pathetic.

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I'd also recommend doing some form of martial arts so you aren't clueless in an unarmed self-defense scenario. Would carry a knife too, and learn how to use it. Also if you're legally allowed in your area and are inclined to take control of your life and future, would get a concealed carry permit and learn how to use the firearm. Again self-defense isn't cute or noble. you do what you have to do to get the deadbeat away from you, using however much force you need to.

getting in a fight because some monkey hurled his verbal feces at you is just embarrassing.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I'd also recommend doing some form of martial arts so you aren't clueless in an unarmed self-defense scenario.


me too. It's easy to walk away when you already know you would win.

 

[Warrior74]

Depends on the situation.

If he was saying some odious crap about me or my mother this and that, we'd have to tussle. iIf its some boysome camp bravado out of nothing, I'd walk away and shrug it off.

Your mother is the president of hor island!

 

[wait_out]

If its really that important to you to be a fighter -- why not do so? With boxing gloves. And a judge. And spectators.

Street fights are not glamourous and can carry lasting consequences, both physical and legal. The last fight I saw in a club was an ambush. The first provoker put the first guy in a grapple from behind, his buddy clocked him in the face, and then the guy behind proceeded to choke him out with something he learned in a MMA class. That's why I avoid megaclubs, only bright spot was the provoker was outside in handcuffs later. Some of these guys have the intention of starting sh*t, they come physically and psychologically prepared, and rely on your reaction for justification. Best real self-defense resource I've seen is here.

http://www.personalprotectionsystems.ca/index.php/articles/.

Sure if you have a knife or gun (if its legal) you might feel more safe, but you need to be ready to kill if you carry these -- if not, leave them at home! -- and that might complicate your life more than surviving a beatdown. Next, you have to be able to use them in a fight. I've been in a 3 vs 1 which started with a kid shattering my eye socket and upper jaw from behind (no warning), it is nonstop and you might have a problem even getting a weapon out of where you're carrying it. Next, say they run and you shoot a 17 year old in the back and his parents are lawyers. Kiss your life goodbye.

At times you fight if you have to, in the worst case scenario you kill if you have to, but there is a big difference between an off-duty cop with a gun who understands his legal liabilities and is inoculated to stress, and a 19 year old who's never been in a fight in his life. Carrying pepper spray is probably not a bad idea for that 19 year old -- do check your legal responsibilities anyway.

If you feel like you backed down, it has more to do with you having a fragile ego than anything else. Work on that, that doesn't mean you shouldn't be ready to fight and end it on the first blow if you can't avoid otherwise. If the guy's a bully targeting you and you can't de-escalate without losing face or encouraging his behaviour, fighting falls in line with the rules of self-preservation and i bless you to cast the first strike. Doesn't mean nothing bad could happen though.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Did you ever see an attorney, doctor, or successful businessowner get into a barfight, yelling "fukk you!" and carrying on until getting arrested by the cops?

Sounds ridiculous, doesn't it?

It is often preached that you have to defend yourself from the insults of others. Why? People who disrespect others only disrespect themselves. If you called Warren Buffett a loser, or any slanderous statement, do you think he would get mad and fight you? Hell no, he's a self-made billionaire and he doesn't give a flying fukk what anyone would have to say. And the same is true of all winners. It is only losers who have to falsely pump up their egos to feel good about themselves, who feel the need to defend their scam so viciously.

Moral of the story is, fighting is for losers.

 

[Paintballguy]

Street fights are dumb and lead to nothing but trouble. Be glad you were smart enough to walk away. It wouldn't of been fun sitting in jail and/or getting kicked off campus.

Personally, I do all my fighting in a gym. I don't need to fight some idiot or drunk ass at the bar.

 

[DJDamage]

"Don’t focus on the one guy who hates you. You don’t go to the park and set your picnic down next to the only pile of dog sh1t."

- Justin's Dad.

 

[Trader]

"Don’t focus on the one guy who hates you. You don’t go to the park and set your picnic down next to the only pile of dog sh1t."

- Justin's Dad.

I would have never expected Justin Bieber's dad to say that

 

[DJDamage]

I would have never expected Justin Bieber's dad to say that

lol its actually this guy: http://twitter.com/****mydadsays

(type the word sh1t - the real word with an i instead of 1 where it is sensored)

 

[HeyPachuco!]

Your mother is the president of hor island!

Take off your coat? ....

 

[BigJimbo]

Did you ever see an attorney, doctor, or successful businessowner get into a barfight, yelling "fukk you!" and carrying on until getting arrested by the cops?

Sounds ridiculous, doesn't it?

It is often preached that you have to defend yourself from the insults of others. Why? People who disrespect others only disrespect themselves. If you called Warren Buffett a loser, or any slanderous statement, do you think he would get mad and fight you? Hell no, he's a self-made billionaire and he doesn't give a flying fukk what anyone would have to say. And the same is true of all winners. It is only losers who have to falsely pump up their egos to feel good about themselves, who feel the need to defend their scam so viciously.

Moral of the story is, fighting is for losers.

Explain the below videos then.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WXxe5FwoWV0&feature=related
Heavyweight Stud dukes it out in city council. He looks small compared to the one beast. I can provide links with hundreds of videos of high ranking leaders in countries fighting. It is called being a man. In America you wash your wife's panties, change your kid's diapers, marry older women, and feel guilty for everything you do.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y1jcB5Jc3Ls
This time you see a fight in the Duma. Most of the Duma is made up of VERY wealthy men. They fight. Hell, they fight all the time. Watch how that broad gets attacked by a male. In Russia if a woman wants to compete against men she had better be able to take a punch. Reason males dominate Russian society. In America people just bit-- and moan. Americans are experts at that.

 

[FairShake]

How is being the manliest of men working out for Russian men? I know, I know they are dying on their feet at age 34 nowadays while we are living on our knees.

Anyway, my best advice is if you can back down from a fight...do. Very few fights are over the things worth fighting for.

 

[spider_007]

i always let them know: "go ahead hit me....you'll be in jail with in an hour..." .... let them know there are consequences bigger then me hitting them.

Things are never solved by a fight....the issue still stands afterwards, and nothing is resolved.

 

[Strelok]

Explain the below videos then.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WXxe5FwoWV0&feature=related
Heavyweight Stud dukes it out in city council. He looks small compared to the one beast. I can provide links with hundreds of videos of high ranking leaders in countries fighting. It is called being a man. In America you wash your wife's panties, change your kid's diapers, marry older women, and feel guilty for everything you do.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y1jcB5Jc3Ls
This time you see a fight in the Duma. Most of the Duma is made up of VERY wealthy men. They fight. Hell, they fight all the time. Watch how that broad gets attacked by a male. In Russia if a woman wants to compete against men she had better be able to take a punch. Reason males dominate Russian society. In America people just bit-- and moan. Americans are experts at that.

I usually support what you say but you're wrong here.
Fighting on the streets with someone who could hyde a knife in his trousers is not the same as having a fight in the middle of a parliament where you know each of the members and there is police outside.

However you're not totally wrong,a society with no violence is a society where any idiot feel free to do the fvck he want without conseguences.
I've never see in easter Europe a slvt making fun of an unknown guy in front of other people or some man trying to get a girl in front of her man.
Those two would both get in troubles.

 

[Plinco]

However you're not totally wrong,a society with no violence is a society where any idiot feel free to do the fvck he want without conseguences.
I've never see in easter Europe a slvt making fun of an unknown guy in front of other people or some man trying to get a girl in front of her man.
Those two would both get in troubles.

I have been thinking about this for some time now as well. Maybe with a little of the proper type of violence, America will be better off.

 

[5string]

Watch this http://shock.military.com/Shock/videos.do?displayContent=216942&page=21

 

[todays_news]

dont back down, but dont act afraid. Maybe take up a martial art so you can kick the sh*t out of the next bit of pondlife that reckons he's going to smack you up.