Back to the Basics: Active Social Circle Creation

[nicksaiz65]

Was hoping I could bring it all the way back to the basics for a little bit. I'm trying to expand my social circle actively instead of passively while I'm in Summer School so I was hoping that I could get a bit of help here.

I've already started to make some new friends. But when you want hang out with them more...

1.) How much is too much for inviting the same person out in one period of time so you don't look desperate? When you're just getting to know someone.

2.) Do y'all ever go out with your boys one on one, or do you always hang in a group?

3.) What do y'all do when hanging out? Just go eat? Go get drinks and watch sports? Go to a bar? Just curious as to some fun things to do.

I know this is like crazy basic stuff, but I've never actively thought about this stuff before. So I was curious as to what you guys thought!

 

[sangheilios]

Building up a social circle is extremely important, and this goes well beyond looking to potentially meet women.

As long as you have your own life that doesn't involve them it shouldn't look desperate at all. You said you are in summer school, so naturally you are going to be in class and when you aren't you'll be doing homework, studying, etc. I'm not sure if you are working a part time job or not, and if you are this is something else you'd be busy with. You also should have some other hobbies and activities of your own (gym, hiking, video games, whatever).

As for spending time with your new potential friends, a lot of this will depend upon you and the guys are socializing with.

I have 2 close friends, one of them I don't spend as much time with because he is VERY busy lately and the other one I speak to almost daily. Anyway, we often see each other at the gym and when we hang out it's generally at this local cafe/hookah place that they like to go to near the University, we live in a warm climate so we can be outside and just chill. We also go out occasionally and hit up the local nightlife, this isn't as often as it used to be though because we are all pretty busy.

Do not underestimate how important a good social circle is. One of my close friends is a banker and last year I learned a ton about investments and trading from him, he got me into the crypto market and I'm sitting on 5 figures with that right now. My other friend is a player, for real, and has been pretty helpful with me in regards to being more confident with women, game, etc. I was very awkward before we first became friends, a little over a year ago, and I can notice a huge difference between then and now, which is saying a lot because I'm still kind of a nerd with women lol.

I do have other pseudo friends but they are really more like close acquaintances that I might spend time with when they are with my close friends but I don't go out of my way to hang out with them.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Building up a social circle is extremely important, and this goes well beyond looking to potentially meet women.

As long as you have your own life that doesn't involve them it shouldn't look desperate at all. You said you are in summer school, so naturally you are going to be in class and when you aren't you'll be doing homework, studying, etc. I'm not sure if you are working a part time job or not, and if you are this is something else you'd be busy with. You also should have some other hobbies and activities of your own (gym, hiking, video games, whatever).

As for spending time with your new potential friends, a lot of this will depend upon you and the guys are socializing with.

I have 2 close friends, one of them I don't spend as much time with because he is VERY busy lately and the other one I speak to almost daily. Anyway, we often see each other at the gym and when we hang out it's generally at this local cafe/hookah place that they like to go to near the University, we live in a warm climate so we can be outside and just chill. We also go out occasionally and hit up the local nightlife, this isn't as often as it used to be though because we are all pretty busy.

Do not underestimate how important a good social circle is. One of my close friends is a banker and last year I learned a ton about investments and trading from him, he got me into the crypto market and I'm sitting on 5 figures with that right now. My other friend is a player, for real, and has been pretty helpful with me in regards to being more confident with women, game, etc. I was very awkward before we first became friends, a little over a year ago, and I can notice a huge difference between then and now, which is saying a lot because I'm still kind of a nerd with women lol.

I do have other pseudo friends but they are really more like close acquaintances that I might spend time with when they are with my close friends but I don't go out of my way to hang out with them.

Yes, I agree. I need to keep building up my social circle cause it just makes things so much easier