Jokerisk said:
Ok then,I will....but first I want to point something out in your thread that you mentioned.
Jokerlsk said:
I facebook chatted her and asked her why she added me and we ended up having a nice conversation. I apologized, and she told me I was cute, which is always nice to hear. I told her that me and her should get to know eachother better and i got her number.
Ok,you see the parts I put in
bold,about her saying that you were cute and you getting her number? Well dude,it's clear....this girl is
attracted to
YOU. And when I say "attracted",I mean SEXUALLY attracted.
You turned her on. And I bet you'll never know what it was that got her interested. You think it was you being "cute"? I don't think so.
This is going to sound nuts,and I'M NOT TELLING YOU TO GO AND DO THIS....but from what I can tell,it looks like that the attraction started right after you called her a b1tch. Yeah,crazy huh?
My first question is this:when you and her had that "nice conversation",what did you two talk about? What exactly?
How long ago did you getting her number happen?
Have you called her and spoke to her since getting her number,and if so,what did you talk about?
Have you asked her out yet?
Do you know why I keep asking what it was you and her talked about? Because if you do the same thing over and over again,the same thing will keep happening over and over again.
I'm trying to see if the conversations you had with her are the same as the ones you've had in the past with all the girls you FAILED with.
Whatever it was you did and said with all those girls you messed up with in the past,if you're doing and saying those same things now with THIS GIRL,well......let's just say you might not want to do that.
So please answer that question accurately.
Jokerisk said:
I don't want to hook up with her, or fvck her, or any of that stuff.
Yeah,you've mentioned this before. You're only 17,so you don't want to have to deal with sexual related issues such as STDs or pregnacy.
That's cool and all,but look....this girl is ATTRACTED to you. She is. You might not want to have sex with her right now,but if you get involved with,SHE WILL EXPECT you to try
something sexual. You've got to do
something. Hug her,kiss her,something.
If you don't,she'll either think something is wrong with you,that something is wrong with her,that you don't like and are not attractred to her,or something else.
So if she decides to date you,she will be expecting something out of you.
She just will man.
Jokerisk said:
I just don't want to screw up anymore. I'm so sick of it.
Well to ME,the only way you can srew up is by NOT BEING SEXUAL with this girl. That's it.
In my opinion,if you show your sexual side to her and she rejects you,that's
SUCCESS. That's you improving.
You showing your sexual side and being comfortable with it is a WIN whether the girl likes you or not.
You know why I say that? It's because that's something you've NEVER DONE.
You've always set your sexual nature off to the side and just tried to win girls over by being nice,funny,goofy,by being their "friend",their therapist,their shoulder to cry on,etc.
And how many times has that worked? In your last thread you said that all of your other friends have dated someone while in high school,ALL OF THEM EXCEPT
YOU.
You're the only one who hasn't had a dating relationship.
You're nice,you're kind,you're funny,you're well-liked,you're a good person,you care for others,you're all this and you express it to girls whom you'd like to date,and all this is fine,but how many times has all those good qualities gotten you a girlfriend?
Zero. You know why? Because none of those things turn a woman on.
Dating IS
SEXUAL. Being boyfriend and girlfriend IS sexual/romantic.
Being boyfriend and girlfriend IS
SEXUAL,but you keep trying to get a girlfriend WITHOUT BEING SEXUAL,and that's why you repeatedly fail.
A woman wants to FEEL sexy,beautiful,desired,attractive.
She wants to FEEL wanted by a MAN.
You keep failing because you leave all that out. You leave out making a woman feel sexy,attracted,desirable,and wanted,and try to replace all that with being nice and friendly and being a "good" person.
And it doesn't work.
Let this girl know you're attracted to her. Tell her you like the way she looks in something. Give her a hug and while you're doing it,tell her to make sure to keep her hands on your back and not to "wonder" anywhere else.
TELL HER you want to see her. When you ask her out,TELL HER when
you're available,and what days will be good for YOU.
For once,just be a MAN who's attracted to a woman.