"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Back to School: Keep It Simple Stupid (Kiss...)

The Antichrist_Star

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As a result of being kids, most of us usually make it a habit to not listen to the things that our parents tell us. Granted, a lot of it is bull****, but every once and a while our parents bless us with information that is absolutely golden... a few days ago is a prime example. I was speaking with my father about my Accounting One test, and what he said to me in regards about the test ended up being more valuable to me as a human being than merely taking a test. He said the following:

"What you learned in elementary school Julian is everything that you will need for the rest of your life. The problems may become more difficult, their may be more words (this is in regards to my test) and it may sound more confusing, but if you just plus and minus yourself out like you did in elementary school... you will always balance out."

This information was so good to me... that I almost got into an accident. It was like every single thing that I have gone through in the past few years had come to a head... this was it... this was the answer I had been looking for during the last four years... and it was under my nose this entire time. I have had the answer since the fifth grade, but overthinking, overacting... overeverything, caused me to purge the answers into obscurity.

Gentlemen... I want you to listen, and listen good. Everything you have ever wanted out of life, girls, grades, success, confidence... whatever... you already have everything you will ever need to achieve all of your goals. It is already there... we were already born with it. However, because we are human and because we have things like logic and reason, we feel like it is our duty to use these reasoning capabilities. And while that is perfectly fine when it comes to Accounting work, in life... your instincts and everything you learned in elementary school is all you will ever need.

Keep It Simple and Stupid and you will never go wrong. In spite of what your conscious mind will tell you, you already have the answers. You are already confident, you are already a success, you are already what you want out of life, but your conscious mind often sucks that away from you with doubt, overanalyzation and other things. Usually our instincts tell us what to do in a situation, but we often over look them in exchange for reason or logic.

I want to re-establish this one point that I made in my last post. Realize, understand, and accept that failure is a part of life. As disappointing, saddening, and hurtful it can be, it is something that will and will continue to happen to all of us. No matter how much you learn, practice, etc... you will still fail... that is just the way things work. What you can prevent... is how failure affects you. Once you accept that failure is inevitable (like death and taxes) you will look at it much like death and taxes... a mere bump along the road. Certainly you piss and moan about taxes... but we still pay them. So piss and moan about failure... but never allow it to stop you.

~ Saint Audrey Iscariot...

Next: Back to School: Economics 2102 (Sunk and Oppurtunity Costs)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yeah well I want to be more.
 

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good post

listen to your instincts, because when all else fails you your first instinct is often the right way to go
 

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Bravo... ;)
 

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
Yeah well I want to be more.
But that is just it... you are already what you want to be, just your consciousness tell you otherwise.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Meditate on this, I will.
 

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Bump...nice post.
 

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Holy ****... I forgot I did this. ;)

Maybe I should actually continue.

AS
 

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This is what I have been doing. It works damn well. I am already happy, and living my life, like I want to. it's very simple, and I understand exactly what you mean.

Accounting's a ***** though. Keep that in mind.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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