"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MidnightResistance

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It's been a couple of days since my last post about starting college.

Things are going good with my first girl. It's about time I gave her a call and set up a date as she's definately a good girl.

As I was leaving this HB9 who I have not dared approach (because I don't think I'd have a chance and she'd smite me down) walks right up and starts asking me all sorts of things. On the other side is her HB9 friend who is doing the same (OMG!).
I concentrate most of my answers to the first of the two. The second one breaks off and the first continues to walk with me.

In the conversation I admit to her "Don't tell anyone, but I'm really a big geeky tabletop wargamer." (I had to in order to explain how I met certain people and I couldn't think up a good lie) She looks at me amazed, as if I'm winding her up, sees I'm not kidding, then laughs really loud. But it's not a bad laugh. I'm so confident with it, it's not an issue. She accepts it without a bother.

She seems to be walking with me for a long time, so I ask where she's walking. We walk to where she needs to be and I keep on going (cos what I want is round the corner). To my surprise she lingers a while and takes a time to break off.

I should have asked for her number, but it was only after she'd gone that I realised I may have been getting hit on.
There was lots of eye contact and when I came close to whisper my confession, she didn't move away, although I didn't show any indication that I was interested.

Was I being hit on, or was she just finding out about me like she would anyone else because I'm on her course?

Your thoughts?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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spider_007

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bottom line; she likes you, it's up to you where you want to take it.

you eather ask her for her number and introduce kino

or

you endup in friends zone

it's really upto you.
 

RaWBLooD

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if ur a gamer thats great, but the way u said it made u sound like a anti-social loser
blew ur chances.
 

Smooth Player 056

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It seemed to me like she was into you........i dont nececarilyi think you blew your chances...depends on how u said it
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MidnightResistance

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No seriously, I said it good and I still felt confident and conversation flowed.

Only bad thing is that I've called up my current girl, she turned down the date and her IL levels are practically non existant and I have no idea why.

One day I'm just going to give up trying with women
 
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