"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Back Pain for two weeks now.. whats wrong?

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Ok I have been having back pain for two weeks now and I have no idea why.

It started Sunday the 12th in the middle of my back to the left of my spine. It felt like a HUGE knot. And for almost 4 days I was on OTC painkillers to help the pain so I could sleep etc. I also developed a fever and cold symptoms during this time.

I went to my doctor, Thursday the 16th and had a whole bunch of tests done on me, urine, chest xray, blood test, and had ultra sound of my organs including kidney. NOTHING turned up and everything was normal. My doctor told me to just wait it out for a while and see what happens.

By the end of the week the pain had gradually improved from an 8/10 to a 2/10.

Ever since then and for the past week now I have had the pain at a 1/10 to 2/10. It is still there. Dull, throbbing pain.

It hurts sometime when I lie on it and when I do certain movements, and I cant go to the gym and lift either as that would greatly provoke the pain.

What is wrong!!!? Anyone had anything like this before?
Could this be a result of me going to the gym? 2 days before the pain onset I went to the gym and did my typical back workout routine. Is it possible for me to ahve pulled a muslce, pinched a nerve.. etc.? How long till this goes away? I want to go back to the gym..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'd be curious to know about my own back pain, as well. I believe it's "lower back pain", because every now and again I'll lay down to go to sleep (I sleep on my stomach) and my entire lower back region will hurt incessantly until it finally fades away. My hurting, I mean it actually takes a focused effort to not shift position; only by telling myself that it will be over soon am I able to keep from trying to turn over. Any thoughts?
 
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i think my lower back pain might have been adjusting to the matress i have here as opposed to the one in the dorm. might something like that be involved in your situation?

i say - go somewhere and get a massage. that seems to help. assuming that isnt contrary to physician advice
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I used to have lower back pain for YEARS, even some of these "shots" when you can't move anymore for several days. No doctor could help me.

I figured it was my abs beeing to short due to sitting, slouching, sleeping with legs pulled to the torso etc. and the chronic pain went away after just a few times stretching my abs for 2 minutes (long time is crucial).

Apply this hint entirely on your own risk, I am not a physician and its impossible to do a diagnosis per these posts anyway.

MoveYourA$$... and your brain will follow
 
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Originally posted by diablo
I'd be curious to know about my own back pain, as well. I believe it's "lower back pain", because every now and again I'll lay down to go to sleep (I sleep on my stomach) and my entire lower back region will hurt incessantly until it finally fades away. My hurting, I mean it actually takes a focused effort to not shift position; only by telling myself that it will be over soon am I able to keep from trying to turn over. Any thoughts?
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Sounds like a cramp to me
 
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I find often lower back pain is directly related to constipation quite often. You might have a blockage of sorts... Yes you can still pass stool.. But not as good. If you take ibprophen or other anti inflamatories make sure to drink PLENTY of water... And to take some stool softeners becasue pain meds cause constipation also and may increase the pain even more so. (Pain killers harden your stool and that pushes on your sciatia nerves and can often stop the signal to empty bowels).

Ask me how I know...

Epi
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Chiropractor...if you are lifting you need to be seeing one at least every six months...stuff gets out of line after a while, the heavier the weights the more likely you need to visit them
 
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