Back on my own and new to this... looking for advice.

[Thomas9u6]

OK, so I am 50, recently divorced and totally new to this after being married and out of the game for 25 years.

I met this 26yo woman at work and we hooked up for one night. She texted/called me for the next two weeks with soft-porn texts filled with all kinds of innuendo...she even sent me a picture of her naked. She said she really wanted to get together again. I texted her and talked to her the whole time and we set up another time to get together. But a few days ago, the 'hot' texts stopped suddenly and became merely cordial. (I know she's not married) I played it down and didn't call or text her for a few days but when I texted her about our date, she was very noncommittal and now seems uninterested.

So should I call her to confirm the date and act as if everything is normal? I am really curious why she changed so suddenly but should I even bother finding out why she did? I know I can move on, but this seemed like a great thing and I want to keep it going if possible. I am looking for any advice the forum has to offer.
Thanks.

 

[Die Hard]

If she withdraws her attention/enthusiasm from you, you do the same. Don't chase after her.

When she stoppped sending hot texts, you responded the right way by not texting her for a few days. You should've kept your cool and STAY silent until she would be the first one to start texting again. Instead, you gave in and texted her... Not only that,you even texted about setting up the date. That conveyed 'neediness'...

Do the opposite! Convey 'aloofness'! The truth is, you want to keep this thing going, it's a great thing you had going on with her, right? Now imagine that you got FIVE other things going on and all of those other things are BETTER than this one. In that case, would you mind if you lost this woman? Would you even bother to text this woman with FIVE BETTER women demanding you to text them daily? Would you even THINK about a date with her if you had to plan dates with FIVE BETTER women in the coming weeks?

The way you would act in that imaginary situation, is the way you have to act right here.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I can't remember who said it but "don't try to understand women, it's a complete waste of your emotional energy and will get you absolutely nowhere."

Basically, women are fuked in the head and you should find a woman who wants to be with you on your terms without hitting you with female bullsht.

Have a look at the sticky posts at the top of the page. They're full of great tips on how to deal with women flaking on you.