Back off? Or ask again?

[drf408]

I've been hitting it off with this girl, but just can't figure it out, I had a big snafu on NYE which I posted about, we didnt connect but no big deal everyone is drunk. 1 week ago I go out with her and we have a great time, she wanted me to go back she publicly affectionate and i met a few of her friends. The night ended pretty platonic (prob my fault) but I left her house in the morning since we both fell asleep there. I had another date with her a few days later (Tuesday) she was definitely much more distant but towards the night her body language was working in my favor and she came back to my place, she didn't seem to want to get into anything though, I kissed her and it just seemed didnt want to get to into it (the first 3 dates ended with us in bed fooling around until morning).
The next night she surprised me and started drunk txting me to come down to where she was for NYE. It didn't happen but that's another story in itself. The weird thing it seems like she really likes me but she definitely is being much more reserved (unless drunk lol). Talking to her went from being mostly joking around and comfortable to just obligatory replies, granted it's only been since Tuesday but I asked her yesterday about getting together over this weekend that I wanted to c her, she just went on about being hung over from being out till 7 in the morning and having to work all night yesterday, no mention of the rest weekend. But she is always quick to reply to me.
She is a very conservative girl who hasnt been single that long and she did get into serious conversation with me on our last date for the 1st time, when was your last relationship, her being conservative and not sleeping around blah blah, perhaps this is a factor. The only question I have should I just lay off, and wait for her wonder whats going on and contact me? Or try yet again, I know shes going to watch the games today so I could try to use that..but I kind of feel like I'm giving her all the control as I already asked the girl...

 

[WC2]

You are... slowly.... slowly...

BECOMING HER FRIEND!

I don't care about her 'thoughts' or supposed 'beliefs'. All women claim to not sleep around; it's an utter lie. If some dude who knew what he was doing put the moves on her, he'd probably have her in the sack in no time. So first come to grips with that fact.

Secondly, you've seen this girl 3 times and you've just kissed her? No wonder she seems distant. She's second guessing your manliness. Her recent talk of 'relationships' and such is just her expressing to you that you're a better friend than lover. A lover would have at least put a few moves on her and definitely would have been at least munching down low by the 3rd date.

I suggest you be a little bolder and stop holding yourself back so much. Get it in to your head that women WANT IT. THEY WANT SEX. They want it more than any talk about relationships or any of that BS. They never will say this, but men who get women KNOW THIS.

By now I think it's too late to start being bold with this chick. She's already decided you work better as a friend than a lover.

Talk to other women, be BOLD this time, and if she comes around later, she does. If she doesn't, no slack off your back.

 

[drf408]

Makes sense though I think im more becoming the "good" guy that she thinks probably wants more from her. Where i actually came off as a good guy at first but a guy that wanted to %^&^ no less.
I should clarify the situation, the first 2 dates ended with us in bed fooling around all night. Last Friday (Friday before NY) she invited me to come out iwth her and her friends, she pretty much acted like i was her bf, very publicly affectionate and wanted me to come back with her to watch something. However since we drank a lot of wine both of us just passed out, so i left in the morning but I dont think this should count against me? The last date, this past Tuesday, I did kiss her, when she was at my place and at her car, she reciprocated but was not letting it go any further.
I though that was a bad sign, but then the next night, NYE, she's out with all her GFs partying and she just started txting me out of the blue to come down. Seems weird that the momentum can shift so easily towards the "friend zone" You did confirm what I was thinking, just let it go and let her contact me next, if not..well that sucks but oh well.