Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Bingo-Player

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carrying on from my post the other night about that chick that who's just finished with her LTR of 3 years and wants to start reconnecting with me......

well this week she's been throwing pieces of bait out on social media for me

so first of all she announces on FB she has a new job in the city i work in ( i don't believe in coincidences)

then her best friend is liking all of my stuff for some reason :confused: :yawn:

and then finally tonight she bites the bullet and sends me a picture of her car complaining it isn't working :confused: :yawn:

i know she's trying to bait me into communicating with her and the old me would have been at her beck & call 4 days ago

but the new me still thinks its too early she's been split with this guy for less than a week !!!!! and i feel if i make a move too early its gonna fvck me over in the future

so im ignoring her but fvck me I've got this whining little afc voice in the back of my head saying "go on do it strike while the irons hot ask her out"....

i feel like I'm in rehab here brothers give me some moral support before i do something stupid :rockon:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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REBOUND. By all means take her out and hook up but don't get too invested. You could take advantage of the situation if she's in a vulnerable state but I would not take her seriously if she's one week out of a LTR.
 

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It's not afc to not hesitate and capitalize on a prospect. Strike with purpose, strike with skill, let the chips fall where they may.
 

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GS750 said:
REBOUND. By all means take her out and hook up but don't get too invested. You could take advantage of the situation if she's in a vulnerable state but I would not take her seriously if she's one week out of a LTR.
i agree
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bingo-Player said:
then her best friend is liking all of my stuff for some reason :confused: :yawn:
Have fun with this.
Start liking all of her friend's stuff right back, and maybe flirting with her a bit.

If the other girl gets annoyed, play dumb and say that you were just being friendly :)
 

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Have fun is right.

Youre not having fun bro. Thats afc

If youre having fun and you dont get the lay....who cares...you dont....thats not afc
 

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I can't believe you have so much rep. This forum is sh!t.

If there is any adice you should take is that she is and will most like be hung up on her ex. She will not put out for you. It''s a guarantee. These dude above me think they are keyboard jockies, but I will say that I've been there, I've done that. Your girl takes A LOT of investment. Move on Bogus-Player.
 

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why are you here then you little fag

you can't walk onto a forum start hurling abuse out with 2 posts u silly little noob troll :nono:

everyones situation is different , i have a problem with this chick because we dated for almost 2 years previous and I'm having trouble thinking straight..... this isnt some broad i met in a coffee shop

be gone

.....
 

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I don't think I have had an experience similar to this, but if we follow Rollo Tomassi's advice on stuff like that, it says that you shouldn't try rekindling broken relationships. It is better to use your spare time in building new relationships than trying to fix an old one. You, her, or both of you two could try saying that you'll be a different person for the other, re-establish trust, forgive each other, etc., but the issues that broke you up in the first place will always creep around either one of you whether consciously or not, and it's going to affect the dynamic. It's like trying to dig in a garbage bag to look for something. Everyone sees you digging garbage, only to find that what you're looking for isn't so precious after all.

Oh, and one more thing, how old is she now?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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