"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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carrying on from my post the other night about that chick that who's just finished with her LTR of 3 years and wants to start reconnecting with me......

well this week she's been throwing pieces of bait out on social media for me

so first of all she announces on FB she has a new job in the city i work in ( i don't believe in coincidences)

then her best friend is liking all of my stuff for some reason :confused: :yawn:

and then finally tonight she bites the bullet and sends me a picture of her car complaining it isn't working :confused: :yawn:

i know she's trying to bait me into communicating with her and the old me would have been at her beck & call 4 days ago

but the new me still thinks its too early she's been split with this guy for less than a week !!!!! and i feel if i make a move too early its gonna fvck me over in the future

so im ignoring her but fvck me I've got this whining little afc voice in the back of my head saying "go on do it strike while the irons hot ask her out"....

i feel like I'm in rehab here brothers give me some moral support before i do something stupid :rockon:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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REBOUND. By all means take her out and hook up but don't get too invested. You could take advantage of the situation if she's in a vulnerable state but I would not take her seriously if she's one week out of a LTR.
 

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It's not afc to not hesitate and capitalize on a prospect. Strike with purpose, strike with skill, let the chips fall where they may.
 

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GS750 said:
REBOUND. By all means take her out and hook up but don't get too invested. You could take advantage of the situation if she's in a vulnerable state but I would not take her seriously if she's one week out of a LTR.
i agree
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Bingo-Player said:
then her best friend is liking all of my stuff for some reason :confused: :yawn:
Have fun with this.
Start liking all of her friend's stuff right back, and maybe flirting with her a bit.

If the other girl gets annoyed, play dumb and say that you were just being friendly :)
 

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Have fun is right.

Youre not having fun bro. Thats afc

If youre having fun and you dont get the lay....who cares...you dont....thats not afc
 

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I can't believe you have so much rep. This forum is sh!t.

If there is any adice you should take is that she is and will most like be hung up on her ex. She will not put out for you. It''s a guarantee. These dude above me think they are keyboard jockies, but I will say that I've been there, I've done that. Your girl takes A LOT of investment. Move on Bogus-Player.
 

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why are you here then you little fag

you can't walk onto a forum start hurling abuse out with 2 posts u silly little noob troll :nono:

everyones situation is different , i have a problem with this chick because we dated for almost 2 years previous and I'm having trouble thinking straight..... this isnt some broad i met in a coffee shop

be gone

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I don't think I have had an experience similar to this, but if we follow Rollo Tomassi's advice on stuff like that, it says that you shouldn't try rekindling broken relationships. It is better to use your spare time in building new relationships than trying to fix an old one. You, her, or both of you two could try saying that you'll be a different person for the other, re-establish trust, forgive each other, etc., but the issues that broke you up in the first place will always creep around either one of you whether consciously or not, and it's going to affect the dynamic. It's like trying to dig in a garbage bag to look for something. Everyone sees you digging garbage, only to find that what you're looking for isn't so precious after all.

Oh, and one more thing, how old is she now?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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