"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mercenary

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I started using this site while I was in college to help me improve my skills with women and people in general. That was 5 years ago.

After sharpening my skill, I eventually snagged a terrific woman and had a serious relationship with her for about 3 years (almost married her). Now that relationship is over and I'm looking to get back into the game.

But so much has changed. I'm older, chubbier, and in a new city. I used to prefer dating women 5-10 years older than me, but now I'm looking for a younger woman.

I know other men on here have gone through similar experiences. Any thoughts/Tips? I used to go to bars every weekend in search for prey (and was very successful), but I may have gotten rusty after having a reliable source of sex for 3 years.

I have a date this weekend with a younger woman. Do I just pick up where I left off?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ballie

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Just pick up were you left off. It's like riding a bike - you don't forget how to ride. Just beware of being too needy - they smell that a mile away.
 

kingwilliam

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I agree, Ballie, one of the easiest mistakes to make when coming out of a relationship is acting like you are in a relationship.......

Be mysterious, funny, and keep your distance emotionally.....you'll be fine. Just remember that girls like a challenge. Its not that they are thinking about all this, its a natural thing.
 

DJArlington

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you want the honest truth. just treat them badly, if you get back into a relationship, dump the girl at least once. you have to let them know you have all the power.

act like you don't give a hoot about them, develop your own passions and hobbies and you'll be good to go. be passionate about your work, education, life, etc. you don't NEED a woman.

i'm trying to get myself to this state of mind.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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NewMan

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I been through the same thing several times. including right now

get back to working on yourself - body, mind and soul, and get out there. don't beat yourself up if your not in the 'game' from the get go - may take some time to develope that killer instinct again.
 
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