Back Burner Bro

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Well gentlemen, I think I've been back burnered...

Met this girl a few weeks back online. We chatted a bit before setting up the first date and I kept it light and funny as usual. First date went great. Did a later light dinner with a few drink. I paid and then she suggested we grab another drink. She insisted on paying for these. Score, right? We later end up at my place and she spends the night.

The next evening I sent her a message just saying that I really enjoyed our time out. Over the next few days I could tell she felt bad about sleeping with me off the bat but I played it cool and she seemed to get over it.

I waited a few days and called for a second date. It was a little last minute but she was up for it. The next day, Sunday, she tells me she may not be able to make it. I was fine with it since I asked with short notice. She didn't counter offer so I didn't bring it up that week. Next weekend rolls around and she mentions doing something on Saturday. I had plans with friends for dinner but said I could meet after. She's all about it. I hit her up after and nothing.

Next morning I get "what happened to you last night". She then tells me she never got my texts and sends me a screen shot. I'm not an idiot. So now I go cold because I see her bs. Sunday and Monday she's hitting me up bit I'm short and not always responding. Tuesday I go out with a good friend who happens to be a very attractive female. Pictures go up on Instagram and a little later my friend gets a notification that SHE liked on of HER pics. We look and the "like" is gone. It was a pic from eight weeks back. Some bodies snooping! This is all while she's sent me a few messages which I didn't respond.

Now, all week she's been UP MY ASS. If I stop responding she follows up with something else in 20 minutes. She's sending me pictures, telling me she wants to do this and that, all while I'm keeping calm, cool and collected and not showing too much interest. Basically being a bit of a **** but not over doing it. She tell me she wants to see me Saturday. I say I have work and plans at 7 but I can meet her in between.

Today, she was texting me through-out the day and when I said I was leaving work, BAM, another reason she can't meet. This time no I'm sorry or I really wanted to see you, just her story and that's it.

Sorry for the marathon but I did my best to break it up

Just want some ideas. My idea? I deleted her number and when she hits me up I'm staying cold. If she asks when I'm free this week I'm going to say that I have a really busy week and I'm not sure. I care but I don't care.

Thanks guys!

 

[thelastmanonearth]

"Over the next few days I could tell she felt bad about sleeping with me off the bat but I played it cool and she seemed to get over it. "

That is your problem, self doubt and she knows it. You might get one more chance, and if you do she shouldn't feel bad about sleeping with you. Also she's playing your game and mirroring you now with the too busy B.S. Set a date if she flakes NEXT no excuses.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

LastMan is spot on.

She didn't feel bad about sleeping with you, that's your assumption of how she felt.

Also why always wait for the weekends to make plans? Its much better to do something quick & casual during the week. Increases your chances that she's available & seems less like "a date."

I don't think you've been "back-burned." You played your hand wrong and now your dealing with the cat & mouse of dating.

Do you like this girl? Do you want to bang her again? Push your ego aside, wait a few days, then hit her up and make plans for something casual during the week.

Her response and interest in seeing you again will tell you all you need to know.

I went through a very similar situation recently and realized how quickly a girl's interest can shift early on.

Strike while the iron's hot. The whole ignoring, posting pics on Instagram isn't helping you.

Let her mind wonder about you, but only once you've created enough attraction/rapport and interest for that hook to really set in.

I think your game tactics were a little too premature.

Remember push your ego aside (easier said than done) and go take what you want.







PIMP

 

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Thanks guys. I agree with both.

The reason I said she felt bad is because told me that she left her sweater here. I said I found it along with a back to an earring and I asked if she left anything else. She said yeah, her dignity. Then said not to give her sweater to some other ho. That was just my assumption.

I don't always hold it to weekends. First date was on a Thursday and I've mentioned a few other week nights. I actually don't even ask for a Friday or Saturday until the girl suggests it.

I really only started playing aloof as soon as she told me she didn't get my texts. I'm 99% sure that's a lie. She initiates 80% of the conversations since then and I've backed off the coldness to her until tonight.

Three attempts to get together and each had some shady way of her getting out of it. My instinct is saying scram but, yes, I do kind of like her. That's why I'm here.

She already hit me up tonight asking if I made it home safe because the weather is bad. I haven't responded (haha ego i know). I'll give it a few days then make a final attempt. She just twisted my brain for the time being and I don't want to get played for a fool!

 

[Financed]

She hit me up again yesterday and I kept it short. Remember, we've only been out once so I don't want to be texting all of the time. I want to date not a freaking pen pal. Because I wasn't giving her long answers like she wanted I then started getting sad faces. I ignored the last one. Ego? Maybe a little but I'm really just irritated at this point. I've already gotten a good morning text.

I try to keep the texting just for setting up the dates but she really pushes it.

Have a great Monday, gentlemen!