"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Baby's Momma is getting married...

TheLadiesMan

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All signs point to yes.

lol!!!

She's been engaged since Dec.'08.

I asked how does that effect my son's name? She said he will always be 'Son of LadiesMan' . :) ...I'm so cool wit dat! :)

...but how does her getting married, effect my child support payment now?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It won't, unless he adopts the kid.

Alimony should go away though.
 

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TheLadiesMan said:
All signs point to yes.

lol!!!

She's been engaged since Dec.'08.

I asked how does that effect my son's name? She said he will always be 'Son of LadiesMan' . :) ...I'm so cool wit dat! :)

...but how does her getting married, effect my child support payment now?
Be smart, buy 15 minutes of an attorney's time.
 

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Luthor Rex said:
It won't, unless he adopts the kid.

Alimony should go away though.
What he said. You're still on the hook.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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the courts will not count her new husbands income in calculating your child support. and if you ever remarry they wont count your new wifes either.

it is your income + her income combined in a bracket on the top of the calculation form
then on the side how many children you have
then you line up the two answers to equal the amount it would take to care for and support the child/ren.
then they take that amount and either make the parent with visitation pay 60 % of it or they have it 50/50.
that is how they come to the amount of your child support.
 

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What's up PK?

You know I don't care about the cs, it's that she's getting married... and as much as we've both have moved on, I'm still catching myself thinking about her every time my son is around.

PenKitten, work yo magic... help me find 'the one.' :D

...you helped me find a job, and a roof over my head, so why not this? :)
 

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TheLadiesMan said:
What's up PK?

You know I don't care about the cs, it's that she's getting married... and as much as we've both have moved on, I'm still catching myself thinking about her every time my son is around.

PenKitten, work yo magic... help me find 'the one.' :D

...you helped me find a job, and a roof over my head, so why not this? :)
ah, thats just the way it goes.
in time you will stop thinking so much of her when your son is there.
you just have to go through the motions first.
i was divorced 7 years before i found the one i really wanted to settle down with.
i think during all those years, i just needed to figure out how to be me, what i wanted out of life, and how to deal with being a responsible parent.

take the time to go through it all before you yearn to settle down again.
 
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