Baby Steps

[amnbyrd]

So today I went to this volunteer/fundraiser thing where I finally met this girl Ive seen around. I found my balls and we ended up talking for at least 30 mins til we both had to leave. She seems pretty cool-Im obsessed with cars and it turns out shes really into them also. Anyways this girl stays in the dorm building beside mine-so we've seen each other around. When we were talking at one point she said she thought I looked familiar and said Im the guy whos always out in the parking lot working on my cars. Not that it matters but I have a Trans Am and a Corvette which can somewhat explain what she said next-She said that from seeing me out there working on my cars all the time that she thought I was ****y and stuckup and didnt talk to other people. Now I really dont know if this was an assumption she made or if she talked to someone who knows me-but this kinda describes me lol
Anyways we ended up talking for a while til we both had to leave. Im happy that I finally talked to her though disappointed that I didnt number close. Though Im sure I'll see her around.
I guess the next time I see her I'll just start talking to her about whatever or where our convo left off.

 

[wjh]

You didn't completely fumble this but do you have any goal in mind or are you going to just leave it up to her lead you into her bed?

Figure out what you want to do with this girl and make it happen. Don't sit idly.

 

[Huffman]

Figure out what you want to do with this girl and make it happen. Don't sit idly.

You're the man - everybody should remember that!

 

[amnbyrd]

Yea, itd be great to date her as she shares my favorite interests, though I hot girl whos into cars does seem too good to be true.
Well I guess all I can do at this point is wait to start something up the next time I see her around and then get her number. Hopefully shes single cuz the girl to guy ratio here sucks really bad.

 

[wjh]

Yea, itd be great to date her as she shares my favorite interests, though I hot girl whos into cars does seem too good to be true.
Well I guess all I can do at this point is wait to start something up the next time I see her around and then get her number. Hopefully shes single cuz the girl to guy ratio here sucks really bad.

Be careful. It'd be great to date her? Haven't you only spoken to her once? It's safe to say you really don't know her all that well. She could, in reality, not be cool. I worry you haven't broken out of you AFC shell.

But relax. If she's "taken" she could be looking for the bigger, better deal (you). If she's totally smitten by her BF then there's nothing you can really do at that point other than to take this as a lesson learned. Oh well. You saw her around and did nothing in the realm of pursuing her prior to your initial conversation. There's a cliche about the early bird gets the worm... I think that applies here. Don't beat yourself up over it though, she's not the last girl on Earth - even if the guy/girl ratio is crap.

Next time you see her you can go in for a number close, "Hey how's it going? I got cought up in the moment and I completely forgot to ask you for your number at the fundraiser last week, write it down though, I know this cool place we can go to some time if you're not busy." Or whatever.

The key is to actually make an effort if you want something out of this.

Good luck bro!