That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
musclyjerk said:
MJ is dead on here. To the original poster, usually when you hear that its what i think of as her being "playfully condesending". Like MJ, I'd put a quick end to that bulls***. That "misunderstanding" would be cleared up pretty damn quickly. I'd either call her out on it, or retort with something even more condesending than her "playful banter" was.musclyjerk said:Hm I don't find it nice to hear the words 'sweetheart' 'baby' 'cutie' .. to me it comes accross like they're focussing on your weakness and patronizing you.
Personally I don't like it.. I know in most instances it's used effectionately...... in a sort of 'thats what I like about you' .. but the way it seems to be.... is that she's saying she likes the weakness in you or something...and NOT recognizing you are a MAN.
'Awww baby' - ever heard that line? That annoys the hell out of me everytime I hear a chick say it to any guy................
I'm just rabbling here really, I'm finding it hard to pin down what I mean.
It's like they're dismissing you as a man... prefering to find 'cute' things about you.. I don't like it at all.
Ermm example: If you're angry and they say 'aww baby its ok' - no it's NOT ok, I'm ****ing angry and that's my RIGHT.. don't patronize me or think I'm being cute - I'm being ****ing angry at whatever it is I'm angry about.
I really can't be bothered to think much today..... sorry it's all a bit........I can't think of the word.
The Muscly Jerk
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
