"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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B-DAY of a chick am gamin TMRW, should i make a BIG DEAL??

MaxPayne

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aight well am gamin this chick who is btw 2 yrs older than me she is with me in college but we r off now so i don see her much, but when we chat i don feel that much connection, she even often goes offline suddenly without sayin bye or anythin, but i have her on myspace and it shows that her bday is tmrw, now i don wanna be like every other loser leavin her a bday comment hoppin she would wanna do me:p, so i texted her close gf "wat r u doin tmrw"....reply "me and *the girl am gamin* are goin out to the mall in the evening"..i don not reply, then the gf goes on msn- btw we r close friends too-, shes like "did u get my txt" .."yeh"..."do u wanna come and catch up with us in there"....."yeh sure but i have some other stuff to take care of first then i'll call u " ...her "ok sure"---- , now the last time me and the girl am gamin chatted it went like this:

me: hi
her: hii
me: wat r u doin?
her: nuthin
her: im trying to sleep
me: o_O ohh right its ur BEDTIME :p
her: looool
her: am kinda tierd but i cant sleep
*i make more fun of her*
her : like am phsically tired
me : ohh somethin wrong ? or is it just from u bein so hyper?:p
her: hahaha
her: maybe there is something
her: :p
me: o_O ummm wat?
her: nvm
me: oooookay, if u have smthn on ur mind u can talk to me

and there she goes offline! fyi chat was around 1:30 am

now FYI she is not havin a party theyr probly just gonna sit in a coffee house and ****..but the thing is ....DO I go to the mall and make a big deal for her about her bday, *grab a couple of those twist-to-pop birthday things* or get her a tiny gift.....or do nothing and act casual cause we are not dating just say happy bday and w.e

thnx i know its kinda too much on short notice
but hey this is wat we r here for DJ 911 ;)
lol
PEACE!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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619joe

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"me: oooookay, if u have smthn on ur mind u can talk to me". Bro that doesnt sound like someone whos gaming a girl.It sounds more like someone who wants to be best friends with a girl....Is that what you were trying to do?Cause it looks that way man.

No man dont make it a big deal.Just send her a text saying "Happy birthday :)" and just be done with it.If you wanna be her best friend,then by all means go shopping with them.

If you dont feel much connection and she often doesnt say bye to you,doesnt that reveal some signs?I mean sure some girls dont have time to say Bye to everyone but if you arent feeling much with her,your fighting a losing battle and your gonna end up doing too much chasing
 

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^hes right. dont say "you can talk to me about it" puts you in friends category
 

MaxPayne

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Thnx folks, i swear to god after i said that to her i was like "why in the **** did i say that?? where did that come from??" ....like usually i would be makin fun of her and bustin her balls constantly with EVERY single oportunity i get!! but lately i dunno i haven seen that bustin her balls is gettin me anywhere..

btw i dunno maybe she went offline to SAVE me from myself, goin NICE BOY! :D lol

anyway should i catch up with them at the mall n just hang out and drop the "hey happy B-day" to her and just chill normally, am also thinkin to not give her too much attention , sit far away from her, the whole "u come to me" move;) ???
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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