"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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B******* and moaning seems stupid when you think about this

originaldj

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Do any of us on this site realize how lucky we are?
Think just the fact that you have a computer and you can use it to make intelligent sentences makes you luckier like 2/3 of the population on earth. We all have food and shelter and are safe, we are getting an education, the biggest problems we have is getting laid. Probably like 9/10ths of the world would give both their testicles to be in any of our positions.

I know this post is pointless, but just the next time you get rejected, and it seems as though your life cant get any worse. Think about how unbelievably lucky you are.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Quite the revelation...
 
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