"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AW's and a aspect of their Manipulation

Brandonc662

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I have not seen a some aspects of AW's posted on here, forgive me if i have missed it. Alot of people have asked how to cut off contact with an aw. Some people have given advise warning things that the aw might do to you personally. First off this is true, they will personally or physiological attack you from multiple angles (I was even stabbed in the chest once by an AW in the process of leaving her). The aspect I have not seen mentioned here is they manipulate others to attack you. This usually happens more predominately with LTRs with AWs, especially if you leave (abandon) them.

Manipulation is a key for an AW, its a basic part of there personality(personality is a term used loosely here). They will play the victim card with the AFC they are currently branch swinging on. That AFC is infected with the Superman Syndrome. He will feel the need to protect her from all the lies she has told him about you. She will play on his insecurity's and jealousy of you to manipulate him into doing what she wants. In the past these brainwashed pathetic guys have tried to attack me, threaten me, vandalize property, etc. These poor son of *****ed, pathetic as they are, are also victims of the AW. They will be the ones getting there ass kicked or facing criminal charges.

The thing common in all these AFC's, even if you explain to them exactly what is going on, will never believe you. They think the AW actually cares about them, thus to question that would be to question ones ego. Most people wont question that ego and will also bend the reality to make things fit into what they want to believe. They believe that you mistreated or abused the AW. The AW will tell them they escaped you, regardless who left who and why. More and More people being victimized by 1 AW.

This is why the AW is like a plague. They will hurt everyone around them. They will use anyone who will let them and use any tool (especially sex) to get what they want. Its a never ending cycle of victimization, just so the AW can make others feel that they are the victim. Thats why so many people are victim of these sick b*tches.

In essence there is no true way to escape the AW. If they want to pursue/stalk you they will. If they want to make your life a living hell they will. If they have there mind set on something they will manipulate everyone in there way to get what they want. You have to nip the problem in the bud, in the very beginning and not get involved. Abstinence from AW's is the only safe bet.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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crazy as$ b1tches
i am actually so happy i left that mom after i read that, you don't understand how much your posts make my head more clearer. I don't want her back or anything to do with her, but I still feel like she need's to know that she has BPD.
None the less she was a good learning experience for me :)
 

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Dole said:
crazy as$ b1tches
i am actually so happy i left that mom after i read that, you don't understand how much your posts make my head more clearer. I don't want her back or anything to do with her, but I still feel like she need's to know that she has BPD.
None the less she was a good learning experience for me :)


The sad thing is most people need this learning experience. You learn you cant polish a turd. You need to go through this so the next time a AW, that is showing you all this attention, you can tell your ego to go F*ck itself. You will know its a manipulation technique. You have to learn the signs of the AW, so you can eliminate them off the bat. You need this pure torture so you will know when you have a good relationship.
 

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I disagree. No one needs to experience an AW. It screws with you for a long time. You don't need to drink poison to know you shouldn't drink it.

Learn to avoid AWs and PDs.

Learn the tell tale signs.

Once you see disrespect, leave. Don't look back. AWs and PDs are no value propositions. Don't demean yourself by knowingly getting involved. There are too many other high value women.
 

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She literally stabbed you in the chest with a knife or do you mean she wounded your heart as in emotionally?

If its the first one I'd say you were dealing with a BPD as they are the violent Cluster B women.

HPD females are mostly non violent but men with the disorder can be very violent.

And yeah I agree with MTN no one should ever have to go through this experience. Getting the worst physical beating possible is preferable to this as at least you can physically recover fully in a lot of cases but you never totally recover emotionally or psychologically from dealing with a Cluster B personality disordered human being.

All guys simply need to be aware of red flags for getting into a relationship with someone and avoid women exhibiting such red flags and they'll be alright.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I agree with what you guys said. But in contrast I would like to point out that men are sometimes the reason a woman becomes BPD. Such as when he constantly miss treat's her, doesn't give a fvck about her but always goes back to her, just doesn't care what he does to her emotionally and physically. These and probably many other reasons why assh0le men create a normal girl into a BPD b1tch. It's sad really.
 

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A woman can't be turned into a BPD by anything other than passed down genetic traits or how her mother interacted with her as an infant of two years old.

A BPD can never be cured either but in select cases they can largely recover from their illness.

They can never be cured fully because BPD is an entire personality just like how our personalities are our personalities and cannot be erased.
 

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KontrollerX said:
She literally stabbed you in the chest with a knife or do you mean she wounded your heart as in emotionally?
No literally stabed me in the tit and the knife came out under my arm.
 
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