"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Awkward Silences
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
mogness
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Sit down in front of the comp, open notepad, and start typing. Anything and everything that comes to mind. This teaches you to be more in touch with the thoughts flowing just below the radar through your mind all day. They are always there, but you never really pay attention to them. Also, it teaches you to be spontaneous.
Now re-read what you typed. Every phrase is a potential topic for conversation. Furthermore, if you are like me, all are somehow connected, the previous leading to the next.
This worked for me. Hope it helps you too
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
But then again a girl will find something to talk about, its just a matter of you asking her something and letting her talk.
If your congruent in being comfortable will the silence she will bring up something to say.
If you act all nervious and make a big deal about it then your making it a problem which it isnt
If your only recently been seeing each other, you guys just having found your "conversational groove" yet where it just flows and is not forced.
And please how in the world can someone not have a topic. Use your imagination. Look around you. Let's say your in a club. Talk about the music, the people, drinks, getting drunk (fun stories here), parties you've been, HOLIDAY ----> this topic rocks cause it flows into so many other topics like meeting new people, swimming in the sea, spotting jellyfishes, peanutbutter. Get it. Talking is cheap and it's not what you say but how you say it. I've learned that it's best to kiss a girl as soon as possible (just on the cheek for now), then go into rapport for like 5-10 minutes and really kiss her.
So greet her then kiss her on the cheek like you know her, then start talking pulling her away from her friends and kiss her. Is it that simple? Yeah it is. Sexual state, I repeat, Sexual State. You see in Sexual State you can talk about how you make your breakfast and make her hot for you.....and then I put the milk in the glas (while rubbing her back lightly).
PRMoon
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Damn I must be an alchy cause the only situation I can think of is in a bar. When you're sitting with your lady and you both stop talking for a second it's okay to look around and check for friends, the crowd, and for other things to start conversation with. Maybe one of these things in your surrounding envirioment will get your puny little brain jump started.
If you're alone then you should probably be trying to at least get some parts of you touching her. Then what you do from there is up to you.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Wel like someone said in one of those posts,it could mean that she's trying to figure out something interesting to say as well. But on the topic of conservations- I think the most effective way keep convo going is to pretend that she's your best pal (of course try to establish some kino though) and go from there.
Seize the DAy!
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Exactly, the need to talk every single second shows fear, and is for losers.
When I was with my concubine yesturday at the bar, we had silence over and over again, but the thing was I orchastrated it. I would just stare in her eyes, and smile, and it would always end with her walking over to me and deep heavy kissing. At the end of one of them she simply said (I cant stop looking at you when I'm around you), and "IT's funny of all the people I've ever met (she's 32), I have never met anyone like you. You just seem to know how I feel".
I love the moments of silence, because unlike many people Im very comfortable in my skin, so when Im staring deep into her eyes I know a million and one thoughts are racing through her head. I always try to keep femals off balence, and this is a beautiful way to do it.
undesputable
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Yea excatly. I was sitting across this pretty hot big titted girl the other day, and we talked and all but then the silences came and i used them to my advantage of course. I would just look in her eyes, and shed like blush or something, it was funny. and it also looked like she was having fun cause she was smiling and trying to get something on under the table
. Also when a girl is putting questions forth to you and making conversation, well id say thats a pretty good sign. Means shes interested in you.englishcrap
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I nicked this line from someone else on the forum
I-am-someone
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There are only moments when you're not talking
.Think about this, very very deeply.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Also, juggler says that before she has rappot with you, you have to do 90% of the talking. Once she's interested she'll do her fair share, possibly even drowning you out.
So don't approach her with questions, approach with statements and a conversation you can hold on your end, ALMOST without her.