"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Awkward Prom Situation

EdHunter

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This is a bit in reference to an earlier post I made...
in the interim before prom, my date (whom I only knew marginally well), started going out w/ another guy and told me, so I offered to break it off and let her go w/ the other guy (we're both seniors, she's a soph, so we're the only way she's going to prom). But, according to her, her new bf (who used to be a buddy of mine awhile back) isn't really into prom, and so she still wants to go with me...to which I have acquiesed.
My feeling is that
A. I can still have a good time with a fun person
B. I can get myself some social proof
C. I'm one charming mofo:D ---maybe I'll steal her heart.

Advice/comments?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Full Throttle

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First of all she's a ***** for doing what she did.

Second, if she's the hottest date you can get, then go for it.

Third, awkwardness is all relative, as is embarassment. Nothing has to be awkward.
 

The Shocker

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agree with Full Throttle, unless you're set on getting laid prom night. Then you should have tried to find someone else ASAP after she backed out on you. At this point, you can just go with her and have a good time. Don't expect anything, she's in a relationship.

I don't know why the fuk her bf would let her do this, but whatever.
 

EdHunter

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Thanks guys. No, I'm not expecting sh*t from this girl, which is why I just set up a date w/ another HB for next weekend, so I'll always have some recourse to tail (man, it feels good to be back in the game!)
But yeah, I'm not set on getting laid prom night, and honestly, my respect level for both the girl and her BF has dropped considerably.

But whatev. I'll just have fun with whatever comes my way.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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