Kailex
Master Don Juan
Desdinova said:
This is all I needed to read.
You dodged a MAJOR bullet right here and you definitely know it, Desdi.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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This is all I needed to read.
You dodged a MAJOR bullet right here and you definitely know it, Desdi.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Desdinova
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The more I've thought about it, the more I realize it. She definitely wanted to move in and had her future plans all focused on it. When I told her I didn't want that, her dreams went crashing down in flames.Kailex said:
I think she had it fixed in her mind to try and change my thoughts on marriage and living together. I told her quite a few times that I didn't want any of that, but she chose to ignore it. Women today know that they have the power to control a man like a puppet. I'm one of the few cases where I refuse to have any of that.
If a woman wants to move into my house with me, she'll have to prove herself worthy. I don't think there's many women out there who are worth this much commitment. She needs to compliment me as a mate, and be able to take care of a home.