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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
awesome article on friendships
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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In this article they were all alphas
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Honestly have no true friends, just acquaintances and work buddies. Nobody I can really count on
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A true friend is someone you can truly count on when you need them and will always be there for u in ur time of need.
I hang out and socialise with my acquaintances often, but if i was in a car crash now and i called them.up to pick me up. They all would make excuses.
I know this because an incident like this happened before and not a singe person came to help me out.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Close to a decade ago, I moved to my current city. In my first 3 months in the city, I met the guys who became my core group of friends. We were all living in adjacent apartments, we were mostly new to the city/transplants from elsewhere, and most of us were single. One guy moved here with his college girlfriend. We were all in our 20s. I was the oldest at 28, the rest were 22-24.
Now I'm 37, the other guys are all in their 30s. They are all married, except one guy with the same gf for the past 7 years. We no longer live in adjacent apartments. The guys who were single eventually got married. The guy who moved to this city with his gf eventually married that same gf and moved away. I'm currently single and unattached. Over the years, I've had the most unsettled romantic life.
The group that was very tight in 2011-13 is now disjointed.
Now I'm 37, the other guys are all in their 30s. They are all married, except one guy with the same gf for the past 7 years. We no longer live in adjacent apartments. The guys who were single eventually got married. The guy who moved to this city with his gf eventually married that same gf and moved away. I'm currently single and unattached. Over the years, I've had the most unsettled romantic life.
The group that was very tight in 2011-13 is now disjointed.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.