Awareness

[Method]

There is a lot of information around here. Unfortunately, exposure to more information does not always result with more intelligence. Even just being exposed to more of the RIGHT information doesn't at all guarantee that you are going to step out into the world and suddenly make all the right decisions. And I am absolutely convinced that a majority of the people visiting this site somehow think that by retreating to a sanctuary of isolation and passively drowning themselves in material for a few short months, that they are going to magically reappear on the other side as a master seduction expert able to coax the panties off any alluring female at nothing but a mere glance.

Listen. The goal is not to become more informed. The goal here, my friends, is to become more aware. The goal is to become more conscious.

Yes. You can brute force your way through to a higher order of thinking by flooding every synapse in your brain with golden rules and iron laws, memorizing each individual permutation of circumstance while trying to predict every possible outcome of every possible scenario in every possible universe. Yes. You can absolutely spend months reading the book of Pook or Anti-Dump, filling your cranium to its limit until you are able to reproduce the entire seduction community on command, line by line, syllable for syllable. But until you actively internalize and implement the techniques and ideals articulated here, you will never make any tangible progress in your life. Listen to me. Absolutely nothing will last. Imagine what it's like to live your entire life with your wildest dreams, highest ambitions, and darkest fantasies obscured and concealed completely out of reach. Imagine what it's like being presented with the girl of your dreams and tasting absolute heaven for a short transient moment, and then loosing everything you have ever wanted in the blink of an eye.

Believe me, it hurts like nothing else in the known universe.

Nothing here is going to magically "soak in" over time simply because you are exposed to it. Sosuave is not a miracle drug and the truly effective principles advocated here are not designed for people looking for any sort of quick fix. You must INSTINCTIVELY focus on becoming more aware. You must ACTIVELY learn to retrain bad habits. You must INTUITIVELY condition, as well as de-condition, yourself on command. This takes interaction with the real world as well as analysis of the wisdom in front of you. This takes rock-solid willpower. Think about what your life could be like if you really took all of this seriously and devoted your energy to truly changing yourself from the inside out. Imagine and visualize everything that you have to gain.

What would life be like if you created your own future?

I used a thick bamboo sword to knock down unglazed clay vessels; they crumbled to dust. They would not break cleanly in two. I smashed them all, never looking aside, and when I came to my senses, every light was out. It was dark all around me.

I had dreamed a dream like this a number of times.

-Kawabata, from "Oil"

 

[Director]

This is pure gold. An excellent first post.

The new life that we are all hoping to build is not just going to come to you. You must pursue it.

 

[Maxtro]

Great post.

...But until you actively internalize and implement the techniques and ideals articulated here, you will never make any tangible progress in your life.

...Sosuave is not a miracle drug and the truly effective principles advocated here are not designed for people looking for any sort of quick fix. You must INSTINCTIVELY focus on becoming more aware. You must ACTIVELY learn to retrain bad habits. You must INTUITIVELY condition, as well as de-condition, yourself on command. This takes interaction with the real world as well as analysis of the wisdom in front of you. This takes rock-solid willpower. Think about what your life could be like if you really took all of this seriously and devoted your energy to truly changing yourself from the inside out. Imagine and visualize everything that you have to gain.

I've been here a long time and I've read so much material probably too much. But I have internalized very little of it. What's funny is that I'm now able to give advice on this forum, but when it comes to my life, it's a complete joke. I spend way too much time on my computer.

I need to spend a lot more time interacting with the real world. But that is so much harder than it seems.

 

[gtownjuan]

Great post.


I've been here a long time and I've read so much material probably too much. But I have internalized very little of it. What's funny is that I'm now able to give advice on this forum, but when it comes to my life, it's a complete joke. I spend way too much time on my computer.

I need to spend a lot more time interacting with the real world. But that is so much harder than it seems.

I know where you're at now, cause so am I. We know so much that we can help other people, but we dont actially "do" this stuff. Knowing full well that if we tried it we would be a lot happier. We just need to man up and try when we see opportunities.

 

[Interceptor]

What is important for you guys is to make peace with the fact that you do NOT feel confident in this area of your lives.

Take a deep breath right now.

And accept this...


"I am not that confident out there in the real world, meeting women, approaching them, dating them..I'm just not feeling confident about it."


It's ok.
It is OK, man.

Really, it is.

It's alright, man.

You're still good enough for a lot of women.
What you do have to realize is that it is YOU that is holding you back. Make peace with this. Embrace it, and make the commitment to get this handled.
You need to LET your SELF shine through.

You need to nurture and respect the man that inside of you.
And you're not doing that right now.

You're not giving yourself the chance, man.


You have to find that motivation that will light that fire under your as to go out and apply what you have 'learned'.

Learn BY DOING. (everythign you have ever really wanted is OUTSIDE your courrent Comfort Zone,. by acting the way that you have been doing , you asociate GROWING with PAIN! This is is WRONG.)
Go back, de brief yourself.

Go out and do, and in the moment look at yourself.
"Am I having fun here?"

"No"


"Why not? What do I need to do?"

"I need to do this."

OK, DO IT.

You wiwll build Self Esteem doing it. You will really LEARN the skills and imprint it into your mind. It iwll stick, andyou will get past the challenges.You WILL eventually be outside your head, and simply BE in the moment and have fun and feel the wave of vibes between you and that woman.
The problem is that all iof you guys have no control over your emotions and no control over your DESIRES!
None.

You are at the mercy and whims of your fvcked up internal state and your external surroundings.
THAT is why you have these sever difficulties right now.
you have emotions whcih control you and desires which control you too. No wonder you can't approach and interact with women effectively, congruently, powerfully,sexually, in a cofident and masculine manner.
And no wonder you are seeing the results you are getting, which is often sub par and not what you want.

Women want to feel sexual.
They want to feel your desire.
They want to feel a connection with you.

They look into your eyes. They look at your body,. They listen to your voice.
They want to feel your Presence and your confidence, man.

You are not doing that. And you can't do that if when ever yo're out, anywhere, you don't at least strikeup a conversation with a woman.
A lot of you have plenty of resources to go to. School, clubs, whatever..and you're not taking advantage of it!

Why???!
There are guys out there who are just doing it. And having fun. Why acan't you be one of those guys?

But you can't do that because of your current state and perspective!
You can't be 'The Guy" right now, becasue you haven't addressed these issues.

Once you feel you have control over your State and emotions, you will have choice.

When you have CHOICE, you will have POWER.

Then you will feel more confidence, and be able to do what you want to do.

BUT...

all this can be yours only if you get out of your Comfort Zone.

"But I'll look like I fool! I will fail, man!"

DUDE, YOU ARE FAILING, MAN!

OK?

You are at a level where you have NO OPTIONS with women!

That IS 'failure', man!!!

You are staying home protecting your Ego when you are commiting suicide!!

Fvck the Ego, man!

Are you going to let fear control your life?
becasue a lot of you ARE letting it.
And I'll tell you what, NO Woman wants a coward for a Man, a partner.

So staying home protecting your ego is a great way of commiting psychogical suicide, and remaining celibate.
Way to go....


Meanwhile, there is a beautiful, sweet woman out there dying to meet a guy that has the sentimentality, hobbies,and persepective of life just like you.

But you'll never meet her, and have her love and affection.

Nope.

You are too scared.

You're scared of women.
Intimidated by failure.
Intimidated by women.

And she's still out there suffering and alone....

and so are you.......

so are you.

 

[Maxtro]

Wow, another amazing post. Interceptor, you basically described me perfectly. I know that the only way to actually win is to get out of my comfort zone. Failing will hurt. But with enough attempts the loosing will stop and the winning can begin.

You are at a level where you have NO OPTIONS with women!

That IS 'failure', man!!!

You are staying home protecting your Ego when you are commiting suicide!!

Fvck the Ego, man!

Are you going to let fear control your life?
becasue a lot of you ARE letting it.
And I'll tell you what, NO Woman wants a coward for a Man, a partner.

So staying home protecting your ego is a great way of commiting psychogical suicide, and remaining celibate.
Way to go....

Psychological suicide. What a powerful phrase. And it's a long slow, painful death as well.

 

[The Bat]

Adding on to Interceptor,

Psychological suicide turns into you marrying some chick who wants you either for your money or your status. It then becomes emotional suicide because you become depressed from the fact that your wife hates your AFC guts. It then becomes financial suicide because your wife leaves you with half your money. The cycle continues.

Don't try to remove fear out of your life. Embrace it. Use it to your advantage. For example, if you are too afraid to approach, then embrace the fear by telling yourself that at least you will have made the approach. Don't worry whether or not you get a phone number or not. At the end of the approach, pat yourself on the back telling yourself that at least you tried. Baby steps. Next time, worry about reading interest levels. The cycle continues.

 

[Director]

This post needs a bump.

Getting outside your comfort zone is hard, but the key is to take it a little bit at a time instead of trying to bite off one massive chunk all at once.

I used to read about "night game" and clubs and all of that, and think to myself "that just isn't me." Clubs are a SPECTACULAR place to meet single, attractive, good-natured women (the whole "girls who go to bars/clubs to get with guys are sluts" mentality is silly). I've finally started to make it a habit to go out to a local dance club. First time I went, I danced with some chicks (even though I'm not the best dancer), and one group even taught my wing and I how to do the Cupid Shuffle. I generally just went out and had a good time. Second time I went, totally different story. I succumbed to approach anxiety and didn't dance with a single chick. For me, though, it wasn't a total failure, because at least I got out there. I'm going to go again this week, and this time AA won't stop me.

Just take it a step at a time, and try not to put too much pressure on yourself.

 

[SinJester]

Great, great post. From Interceptor as well. My problem is that right at the moment I don't know what steps to take.

 

[sam3083]

"Any intelligent fool can know, the point is to understand" Albert Einstein.

 

[playa99]

great first post method, highlights what this forum is about. Great post as well interceptor motivational for people with low esteem. keep it up, seem that this forum is taking a turn for the up