You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
At a going away party for my cousin at a bar with the whole family. Texted to confirm a date earlier that night with a gal, she confirmed and flaked later and didn't show. Mother and sister both chimed in on how i should do dating and first dates
F1: How'd the date go?
Me: It didn't, she confirmed and then flaked
F1: Oh that's too bad
F2: Why'd she flake?
Me: Idk, women flake for whatever reason, she missed out on a fun date of beer and bowling
F1: Well what did you do then?
Me: so you think i did something wrong?
F1: well yeah...
Me: i offered beer and bowling, she countered with apps and sit down dinner. I said nah, I'm into action dates and goofing around. She said cool
F2: Well what if she didn't like bowling? you've got to compromise.
Me: compromise on a first date??? shes not doing well if shes counter offering agaisnt me.
F1: Yea you have to decided to do something you both like together
Me: the date is irrelevant, if shes interested, she'd have fun letting me lead and doing whatever with me.
F2: what do you mean by lead?
Me: lead the situation, create the fun, have a good time....
F2: Christopher.....you're suppose to compromise. This is why your dating life is so bad
Me: Nah my dating life is great, If a girl doesn't like beer and bowling, then i can rule her out as long term potential. plenty more out there to have fun with.
Me: I'm gonna go play pool
Even my mother and sister aren't immune to the entitlement that they think they should get. everything should be a compromise, even on the first date.
Ever played corn hole, Kuub, Norwegian golf? Big fun for tailgating, but also fun for dates. Little competition and a chance to get out and drink instead of at a barLawn games?
I've done the public park thing several times but it has always came after drinks at a bar that was in close proximity. Most seemed delighted and I think it was something different.What's your guys take on public park dates? I honestly love them. Play lawn games, walk, sit on benches. I get a lot of resistance from that one. It's a public place and people are always around. No different than a bar
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I have a cardboard box I bring with, with sticks and cubes inside. Set it up and play. It's always a good fun quick date. Plus I bring 2 beers. So I can literally do 3 dates with a 6 pack of bud lightSo these r basically like our quoits or boules. Do u take the gear with u it is there somewhere set up to play?