AW With BF (long)

[PeterCrouch]

Ok so ive been reading the DJ Bible, and came across this atricle

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=55343

Thought i would read it coz im currently chatting to a gal (only on msn and texting as we live quite far away) who i believed to be a AW and who has a bf!

While reading this article i tried to relate it to this gal, heres what i have come up with and maybe you guys can help me with some of my questions or the way she acts!

Ta

WARNING SIGN #1: She's gets angry easily
She get's pi$$ed off easily when you challenge her. (i.e. catch her out lying, or she senses you doubt her honesty).

This gal doesnt with me, i dont think ive really challenged her properly though, any good ways i could? She kept asking me about my love life and i told her she wasnt gonna know about it unless she wanted to be part of it, she just said ok! Dunno if this is the right thing or not? (BTW I know wrong thing to do but i later told her about it lol)


WARNING SIGN #2: She will drop you at a moments noticeShe pretty much tells you to fvck off if you argue with her, like she doesn't need you. And will literally cut you out of her life. (Only to have you run back like a good little puppy). Also she will cancel on you at the last minute on occassion and lie about why she can't make it (this one was iwth her BF). She will dissapear for a week, and you won't hear from her.

This doesnt happen, if we argue she goes along with it, she is quite a joke about gal like me and we normally just muck about when argueing but if we dont speak for a week, shes the one that gets annoyed, like i was away for 2 weeks, i come back to an email saying "where are you etc" and her telling me on msn "havent spoke to u in ages! where ya been, what ya been doing etc, howz ur love life"

WARNING SIGN #3: She forgives you WAY too easily. Well like i said we havent really argued properly and i dont think ive done anything worth forgiving for either

more to come

 

[PeterCrouch]

WARNING SIGN #4: You get the feeling she's lying to you Her reasons for not being able to see you, or canceling on you don't make sense

Well i dont get the impression shes lying to me, but she does cancel on me, because of her bf! eg - I asked her to the cinema, she said shed love to but would we have enough to talk about, after making her come she came up with the old "i have to work, and dont think my bf would be happy about going to the cinema with you" also said i was gonna go looking for a job tuesday and she said "u better go im gonnna make sure, ill help you if u want" so i said sounds like a plan, but a lil later when i mentioned it she said "i dont know if i can come but ill be there in spirit" WTF?


WARNING SIGN #5: She has a troubled past/present We never talk about her past, never talk about her bf and never talk about her problems, its only the future, flirting things and random silly stuff we talk about



WARNING SIGN #6: She is WAY too comfortable around men She dances like a real slvt and flirts with other men easily. She talks with you openly about sex (which is a good thing) but never delivers. She also understands how men's minds works and uses this to use men

Well i do get the impression she has alot of guy friends, havent seen her dance but she flirts with me alot for sure! she talks a lil about sex but even tho she hasnt told me i know shes a virgin and she knows i know (any ideas how i could use this to my advantage?) she does know how a guys mind works i think, and she does use it to her advantage, and ive been guilty of falling into her trap (getting her things like songs altho last night i told her i want a hug and a cheese sandwich in return lol)

WARNING SIGN #7: She keeps you isolated from her friends I did meet her friends, but she would manipulate me so I wouldn't see them. Like she told me what a b!tch her one friend was. And told her FRIEND what an @sshole I was. So we both don't speak to each other. She likes to keep you in control and makes sure she has all her bases covered. Well i met her through her best friend (another gal, who she got my number from (she was the one who asked her for my number)) so apart from her and other mutual friends i dont know much about her life, we never talk about her other friends or her bf!

Couple of other things about her after talking about my love life she randomly said "ur gonna meet someone special and shell be so lucky to be with you" she thinks im cheeky and a high 6 in looks! we text quite a bit, i get the impression when her bf is not around or able to text her she will talk to me instead (dunno if this is good or not)

Just basically intrested to hear what you guys think, does she sound like an AW? her best friend a friend of mine is a AW ive no doubts about that, but i did think this gal was a lil different but maybe not i dunnno!

Anyway based on what youve heard, what do ya think about my situation? BTW im intrested in another gal alot more than her (and she knows this, shes always asking about her) so im kinda using this gal to test some stuff out, so any help here could be useful too!

Ta x

 

[basbhat]

What do you want from this girl?

She has a boyfriend, right? Your fretting over a girl who doesn't put you first, and probably doesn't view you that way either.

As my friend used to say "Do you wanna play fiddle in the backup band?" Well, do you?

Definitely start concerning yourself with the other chick(s). You will remain in limbo if you dwell on this AW. And besides, once you really start going in a direction where this other chick really starts to like you, she'll want you more than she does now!

And about this girl's friend, all I gotta say is "Birds of a feather flock together."

 

[Hound_of_Love]

I'm with Basbhat.

At best you're her back-up plan.

Make her your back-up back-up plan - just another potential. Use her for practice but not as a prospect.

 

[PeterCrouch]

Thats exactly what iam doing - Yeh ill shag her coz shes hot but im alot more intrested in another gal!

As long as i get my cheese sandwich from her ill be happy!

 

[christz]

jump ship now assumeing you even boarded the uss enterprise

 

[jprjrjr]

Originally posted by PeterCrouch
Thats exactly what iam doing - Yeh ill shag her coz shes hot but im alot more intrested in another gal!

As long as i get my cheese sandwich from her ill be happy!

I'm a bit confused. From your post, I can't tell if you've met this girl in person, or are just chatting, and texting with her?

You'll shag her? How the hell do you think she's going to let you shag her when she won't even go to a movie with you?

I think you're making a lot more out of this "relationship" than is really there.

If you're so much more interested in another gal, why are you asking our advice about this chick???

You're a strange little man.

 

[aftershock]

Originally posted by jprjrjr
You're a strange little man.

I hate to agree with this guy, but yes, you are. You are using DJ principles to try and steal girlfriends off blokes, who you are infatuated with, when you should be starting with simple club/cold approaches.

Have you tried the bootcamp?

(I'm actually thinking of doing a thread on gf stealing, since I have experience with that but it's being bothered to type it...)