Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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PDubb75

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Seen some other rants on here recently and now I'm adding one of my own.

First girl I slept with, let's just say I think she's hot as hell now. I broke up with her for this other girl (the one I ended up joining this site because of). That was back in high school.

Over the last year or so, we have started talking again, almost exclusively on Facebook. She came to me with her boyfriend issues, which I made no comment on. Got to the point where that was all she messaged me about, so I went NC. Drove her absolutely crazy. She wised up and stopped doing that, and we started talking a bit again. I tried a couple times to meet up with her and they just didn't work out for whatever reason. Then she randomly calls me one day. She apparently still had my number from 7 years ago. I had no idea who it was at first. Then she tells me we "need to hang out" and we should figure something out soon. She goes on a week long streak of IMing me twice a day every day. I tell her we should grab a drink with some friends that Saturday. Ignores me.

Again I stop talking to her, start dating my last g/f. This ex of mine gets really interested in this new girl. Tells me how incredible we look together and how gorgeous my girl is. Tells me we need to hang out. We should go on a double-date, blah blah blah. Keep in mind, at this point, this girl is engaged to a guy she was dating for 4 months. When my last g/f and I broke up, she called me as soon as she heard and told me to let her know if I need anything. Then tells me that if we are both single when we turn 30, we should get married.

A month later (month ago) she ends her engagement. IMs me to tell me. I took that as a sign. Then she tells me they broke up on a Tuesday, she already had a date that Thursday and Friday, and was talking to some other guy too.

I gave it one last go. Ask her to meet up one night cause I saw her Facebook post that she was going to be in the same area as me. Completely ignored. I was done.

See this on FB a couple minutes ago: http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/690/capturefmm.jpg/

The things I want to say on that post are driving me crazy. But, I know how "beta" and "AFC" they would all be. This is so hypocritical (expectantly). Just another example of how crazy these girls are. Had to let it out somewhere. Better here than on her status.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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SoSuave666

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I've said it once, and I'll say it again: women named Nicole are nothing but trouble.

Aside from that, yea dude a lot of that sh!t pops up on my "feed." I make it a habit to only go on fb once every couple of weeks. This is the norm though now with women. All 20-28 year old chicks are disgustingly entitled.
 

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Eh. Once you accept that these girls live in a fantasy world, you'll be a happier man. You can't treat what they do or what they say as if they were real people.

It's like this...you know how dogs get scared during thunder storms. They hide under beds or whatever. And maybe you think to yourself, "What is this dog thinking? It's just a thunderstorm. Oh wait...right....it's a dog."

Well it's like that with these girls. You're like "Wait a minute. Men are the problem? You just broke an engagement. You've been flirting with men throughout the entire engagement. You have a date immediately after breaking the engagement.....and MEN are the problem??"

...and then you realize, "Oh wait...it's a girl. Nothing they say is based on reality."

So, I get frustrated too. I'm no better than anyone. But believe me when I say, you'll be a lot happier when you start realizing that they are an entirely different animal, and stop expecting them to live in the same logical world that you do.
 

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SoSuave666 said:
I've said it once, and I'll say it again: women named Nicole are nothing but trouble.

Aside from that, yea dude a lot of that sh!t pops up on my "feed." I make it a habit to only go on fb once every couple of weeks. This is the norm though now with women. All 20-28 year old chicks are disgustingly entitled.

LMAO... So, it's no wonder I'm on this site since I've dated 4 Nicole/Nikkis...

Seriously... FOUR. And I've only "dated" six girls. I get sh!t about it from friends constantly.


Iceberg said:
Eh. Once you accept that these girls live in a fantasy world, you'll be a happier man. You can't treat what they do or what they say as if they were real people.

It's like this...you know how dogs get scared during thunder storms. They hide under beds or whatever. And maybe you think to yourself, "What is this dog thinking? It's just a thunderstorm. Oh wait...right....it's a dog."

Well it's like that with these girls. You're like "Wait a minute. Men are the problem? You just broke an engagement. You've been flirting with men throughout the entire engagement. You have a date immediately after breaking the engagement.....and MEN are the problem??"

...and then you realize, "Oh wait...it's a girl. Nothing they say is based on reality."

So, I get frustrated too. I'm no better than anyone. But believe me when I say, you'll be a lot happier when you start realizing that they are an entirely different animal, and stop expecting them to live in the same logical world that you do.
Very true. And I know that. I've just never met someone that is as much of a tease as she is, that I want to fvck as bad as I want to. I know that's a terrible way to think about it. Trust me, I know. But that's how it is.
 

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PDubb75 said:
Seen some other rants on here recently and now I'm adding one of my own.

First girl I slept with, let's just say I think she's hot as hell now. I broke up with her for this other girl (the one I ended up joining this site because of). That was back in high school.

Over the last year or so, we have started talking again, almost exclusively on Facebook. She came to me with her boyfriend issues, which I made no comment on. Got to the point where that was all she messaged me about, so I went NC. Drove her absolutely crazy. She wised up and stopped doing that, and we started talking a bit again. I tried a couple times to meet up with her and they just didn't work out for whatever reason. Then she randomly calls me one day. She apparently still had my number from 7 years ago. I had no idea who it was at first. Then she tells me we "need to hang out" and we should figure something out soon. She goes on a week long streak of IMing me twice a day every day. I tell her we should grab a drink with some friends that Saturday. Ignores me.

Again I stop talking to her, start dating my last g/f. This ex of mine gets really interested in this new girl. Tells me how incredible we look together and how gorgeous my girl is. Tells me we need to hang out. We should go on a double-date, blah blah blah. Keep in mind, at this point, this girl is engaged to a guy she was dating for 4 months. When my last g/f and I broke up, she called me as soon as she heard and told me to let her know if I need anything. Then tells me that if we are both single when we turn 30, we should get married.

A month later (month ago) she ends her engagement. IMs me to tell me. I took that as a sign. Then she tells me they broke up on a Tuesday, she already had a date that Thursday and Friday, and was talking to some other guy too.

I gave it one last go. Ask her to meet up one night cause I saw her Facebook post that she was going to be in the same area as me. Completely ignored. I was done.

See this on FB a couple minutes ago: http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/690/capturefmm.jpg/

The things I want to say on that post are driving me crazy. But, I know how "beta" and "AFC" they would all be. This is so hypocritical (expectantly). Just another example of how crazy these girls are. Had to let it out somewhere. Better here than on her status.
Go find these two websites:

Chateau Heartiste

and

The Rational Male

Read everything there. Everything. Then you'll understand what you/we are facing with women these days.

Get crackin!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Why am I not suprised to see she is from Chicago? Heh... Most women from that area (Midwest) are garbage. She reminds me of what I used to deal with, and all the dip****s responding to her, as well. They all think they're good women, and can't find a mature man... 'Cause they're all stupid and delusional. The only people who think they're good is themselves. They attract what they are - then complain about it. Guaranteed that everyone who responded is in her loser group of friends - who attract nothing but other losers. Just a bunch of losers complaining about what they are. Hence, why they keep attracting them.

The problem is, no one views themselves in a bad light - its always someone else who's the problem. They just can't find the right men, and whatever bull**** they delude themselves into believing. The problem is them, but they won't see it that way. Ever. Instead, they'll keep chugging along with their head up their ass, and continuing to be losers forever.

This is why you put no faith into what people claim - you pay attention to who they are, and who they associate with / the lifestyles they have. There is no connection between their self-absorbed perception and reality. Your anger comes from their delusion, hypocrisy, and so forth. This is when you know you're dealing with a loser who doesn't deserve what she feels entitled to. She's complaining about the same things she is, and throwing the blame on everyone else. That's what losers do. They piss you off.

Gotta disagree a little with Iceburg. It's people in general - not just women. Lots of men are the exact same way. They'll act like douche bags, play and lie to everyone, attract what they are, etc, etc - then turn around and play the victim, call all women *****es and *****s, claim there are no good women... Blah blah blah. All as they're dating strippers, getting involved in the drug / alcohol / crime scene, are dysfunctional jerks in general, etc.

Used to associate with losers from both sides. They were ALL the same, and did nothing but complain about what they were (losers), and feel entitled to what wasn't reachable for them (good people who don't associate with losers).

When you encounter someone like this - rather than ***** about how worthless, delusional, two-faced, selfish, hypocritical, etc, they are - get rid of them. They're not going to stop being losers, or pissing you off (as a result of it). Just a waste of energy to get worked up over a loser.

Generally, if someone is complaining - they are heavily involved in some way. Likely complaining about the same people in their own lifestyle (ie, what they are).
 

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Delete her. Remember why you originally went no contact on her and shut her out permanently from here on. She's worthless floating around the bottom where she belongs. She's got daddy issues for sure.
 

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just post on the thread...."you attract that which you are attracted to" then delete the mad cow from your life
 

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bmxcetera said:
Delete her. Remember why you originally went no contact on her and shut her out permanently from here on. She's worthless floating around the bottom where she belongs. She's got daddy issues for sure.
She actually has a great relationship with both of her parents. And they both hate me :)

I should just delete her. I know setting a goal of fvcking her again is what has held me back from doing that already. But, at this point I guess it really isn't worth it.
 

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floydb25 said:
Why am I not suprised to see she is from Chicago? Heh... Most women from that area (Midwest) are garbage. She reminds me of what I used to deal with, and all the dip****s responding to her, as well. They all think they're good women, and can't find a mature man... 'Cause they're all stupid and delusional. The only people who think they're good is themselves. They attract what they are - then complain about it. Guaranteed that everyone who responded is in her loser group of friends - who attract nothing but other losers. Just a bunch of losers complaining about what they are. Hence, why they keep attracting them.

The problem is, no one views themselves in a bad light - its always someone else who's the problem. They just can't find the right men, and whatever bull**** they delude themselves into believing. The problem is them, but they won't see it that way. Ever. Instead, they'll keep chugging along with their head up their ass, and continuing to be losers forever.

This is why you put no faith into what people claim - you pay attention to who they are, and who they associate with / the lifestyles they have. There is no connection between their self-absorbed perception and reality. Your anger comes from their delusion, hypocrisy, and so forth. This is when you know you're dealing with a loser who doesn't deserve what she feels entitled to. She's complaining about the same things she is, and throwing the blame on everyone else. That's what losers do. They piss you off.

Gotta disagree a little with Iceburg. It's people in general - not just women. Lots of men are the exact same way. They'll act like douche bags, play and lie to everyone, attract what they are, etc, etc - then turn around and play the victim, call all women *****es and *****s, claim there are no good women... Blah blah blah. All as they're dating strippers, getting involved in the drug / alcohol / crime scene, are dysfunctional jerks in general, etc.

Used to associate with losers from both sides. They were ALL the same, and did nothing but complain about what they were (losers), and feel entitled to what wasn't reachable for them (good people who don't associate with losers).

When you encounter someone like this - rather than ***** about how worthless, delusional, two-faced, selfish, hypocritical, etc, they are - get rid of them. They're not going to stop being losers, or pissing you off (as a result of it). Just a waste of energy to get worked up over a loser.

Generally, if someone is complaining - they are heavily involved in some way. Likely complaining about the same people in their own lifestyle (ie, what they are).
Couldn't have said it better myself.

The thing is a lot of these same people get off on posting their own nonsense on Flakebook knowing full well they are full of sh!t but are seeking attention off their own laughable horse sh1t as well.

You just have to ignore losers completely. They can't, don't want to, and will never change. YOU have to get them out of your life permanently. No looking back. Completely disappear. Period. End of story.

The only purpose losers should serve in your life while they are in it is you paying attention to their signs to avoid future losers coming into your life.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Delete her man..

It's like pulling a band-aid off fast.. Only hurts for a second.

Everyone wants to live that care free MTV, party like a rock star lifestyle. Then they realize that in order to be successful in life they actually have to try, and have an IQ higher than that of a stone. They blame everyone else for their mistakes (as mentioned above) and they are too lazy to make a change.

They think because Paris Hilton and kim kardashian, and the Jersey Shore crew all get paid to have fun, they should too. Fantasy world for sure. And midwest def is filled with dreamers. I'm from Chicago too and a lot of the girls there are full of themselves. Being out in Cali for the summer has given me a breath of fresh air from them.
 
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