"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AW = Female DJ/Player

sfalexi

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Would it be safe to say that an AW is pretty much the female equivalent of a DJ? With the only exception that we RECOGNIZE that she is and therefore don't buy into it?

Just seems to be that a lot of the very big signs of an AW (lots of male friends, able to get guys to fall for her, loves and gets a lot of the attention through similar means to us, etc. etc.) are pretty synonamous.

So you think it's about the same?

Alexi
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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familyguyfan

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Well I would say that the one big difference is that the AW gets looked down upon, while the DJ is not. And it's not just that DJ's are more accepted in society, it's that they should be. AW's are just out for attention and don't always treat the guys with the respect they want, while DJ's want women, yet treat them with respect.
 

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AWs and DJs have many similarities.

I think jerks and AWs are closer to each other. Jerks are physically abusive. AWs are emotionally manipulative. They both keep acting like five year olds to get what they want. We prefer to assume they are not aware of what they are doing and are acting on an unquestioned instinct. ;) How true this is varies by individual.

DJs pick and choose what aspects of the jerk they want to use. The closest approximation of a female using flirting in an "aware" way, that we have an easy way to define, might be the Rules girl.

Both are aware of the game and try to use it's rules to their advantage.

Some will argue that the rules girls only use their system to grab a rich man. Some claim DJs only use their system to bang all what's they can find.

Both arguments are true. It is only the ethics of the individual that will limit how they choose to use their system. Open to a more flexible term then "rule girl"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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well say as a DJ you have 3 girls in your stable - the main girl (your gf) and the fallback girl and then the third being a slutty girl whos completely female AFC- she lavishes you with compliments and so you keep her around for the attention and maybe sex in the future but other than that, promises to go out , road trips etc- its just bull**** and you flake on her when it really comes time to go out with her- is that normal DJ behavior or something else entirely?
 
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