"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CFERD

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I've the been doing well getting the cluster b*tch out of my head. Dam though, what a mess. Talk about a serious mindfvcking, unbelievable!
What a horrible person, she's like a three year old trapped in an adult's body.

Anyhow, I have the misfortune of sometimes having to work in the same building as this witch. I have had to make a lot of effort to avoid her. I'm kind of tired of going out of my way. I guess the thought of having to walk by her in the hall and ignore her has me thinking I'd be wearing the skirt. I'm sure if she saw me coming she would run in the other direction if possible.

I could use some advice as to how to approach this. I've been avoiding having to see her as I don't want to even be tempted to get sucked back in a third time. I really don't think that would happen now that I have seen her for who she really is, I think it is more my emotional wellbeing I'm protecting.
For those that have been there, you know how much damage this kind of monster can inflict. Of course she feels in control right now, I'm sure the minute she doesn't she will initiate contact...... Welcome to my ingore list!
What say you guys,? Look away, make eye contact, smile, say nothing?

Had this been a normal girl I wouldn't even be posting this, I'd simply treat her with the same respect and politness I would anyone else at the work place.....this is a whole different beast, seeing as she turned me into the father she absolutely hates....I really don't care what she thinks,my concern is that I don't want to feed her ego.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Just treat her with an emotionless acknowledgement.

Be as boring as you can around her if you are forced to interact with her at any point.

They feed off of excitement, emotions and drama of all of that.

Be boring, be all business, be mildly polite if you deem that is what is necessary to appear normal and be about your day and your business.

And what I mean by being mildly polite is if you feel you have to say a quick hey or hi to her do so and then walk on by just like you would if some person came around the corner and you both stopped just before bumping into eachother and said hey. That kind of acknowledgement. Not an overstated hey or hi you'd say to a normal woman. Just something quick to appear natural and again so you can be about your day.

Anything else will feed into her sickness and give her validation and even if you use the type of hey or hi that I have just told you about when she decides she wants her fix from you again she'll say something provacative to get you to respond to her further but you just keep on walking as though you didn't hear her. What she will say doesn't necessarily have to be sexual it will be something that is intended to have shock value to get your immediate reaction.

You give her that reaction and she wins.

Don't do it.

"whats a bdp?"

Borderline Personality Disorder.

Use the forum's search feature and you'll quickly find out what it is.
 
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