"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Avoiding a group agenda - advice please

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Hi Fellas,
Came across an issue last night that I was unsure of the best way to proceed. I opened a three set, no problem, plenty of interaction, fun, kino etc. In fact I was just testing my ability to open, and I had no real agenda other than to have a bit of easy fun. We had HB7, HB7 & HB about 5. As things progressed I sensed that the two HB7s wanted to get me with the HB5. Well, I politely ejected anyway and moved on.

Thing is, this kind of dynamic must be quite common. Girls often go out in groups with the specific intention of 'finding a man for so-and-so'. Since 'so-and-so' is invariably the least attractive of the group, what's the best way forward from here? Thoughts anyone? Thanks.

(As an aside, I was alone and shortly after opening one of the girls pointed to a lone guy at the bar looking on. "Is he with you?" she asked. "No," I replied, but thought 'A couple of years ago he WAS me'. Felt good.)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Thanks for the advice. You're right that in this case I definitely didn't have a pre-focussed target. Maybe if I'd have done the standard thing as you suggest the group's original intent would have evaporated. Yeah, thanks mate.
 
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