Avoid the Unhappy

[bigneil]

Have you ever dated a depressed girl and you get depressed yourself? And long after the breakup, you still feel down? Ever wonder if you could "catch" depression? Apparently you can, or at least according to "The 48 Laws of Power":

Law 10: Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and the Unlucky.

"You can die from someone else's misery - emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning (woman) but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead." (pg 76)

"(Some)" draw (misfortune) upon themselves by their destructive actions and unsettling effects on others. It would be a great thing if we could raise them up, change their patterns, but more often than not it is their patterns that end up getting inside and changing us. The reason is simple - humans are extremely susceptible to the moods, emotions and even the ways of thinking of those with whom they spend their time". (pg 79)

"The incurably unhappy and unstable have a particularly strong infecting power because their characters and emotions are so intense. They often present themselves as victims, making it difficult, at first, to see their miseries are self-inflicted. Before you realize the real nature of their problems you have been infected by them." (pg 80).

I wondered if anyone had similar experiences regarding this.

 

[Iceberg]

This is good advice. It should apply to how you choose your friends as well.

Having negative or complacent friends can be a burden on how you achieve your own dreams. I'm not saying that your friends have to be billionaires. If your friend is happy being a farmer or mechanic, etc, then that's fine too. But we should surround ourselves with happy, interesting, passionate people.

 

[Ace_Magnamus]

Sure have

yeah they are such a drag that they bring you down all the time

nope, I feel relieved after they are gone. like a breath of fresh air.

 

[SoSuaveDude]

Well most people on this forum seem pretty dam unhappy! :crackup:

 

[bigneil]

Well most people on this forum seem pretty dam unhappy! :crackup:

Yes I did notice that - we all have to keep our chin up I suppose.

 

[PapiChulo]

I though of Hitler while reading this. This guys seduced the entire nation. Honestly it is true to some extend. Ask yourself, why would you be drawn to this miserable people in the first place? Misery loves company, yet ideas are what really infects people's minds. You are just that much more suscseptible to it. If you are happy yourself, I dont see how someone can trick you into depression. One also should not ignore that our peers change us- so yeah, you should choose wisely. It's easy to sell misogyny on this site, isn't it?

 

[Warrior74]

I though of Hitler while reading this. This guys seduced the entire nation. Honestly it is true to some extend. Ask yourself, why would you be drawn to this miserable people in the first place? Misery loves company, yet ideas are what really infects people's minds. You are just that much more suscseptible to it. If you are happy yourself, I dont see how someone can trick you into depression. One also should not ignore that our peers change us- so yeah, you should choose wisely. It's easy to sell misogyny on this site, isn't it?

The entire nation of Germany was unhappy at that point, he was just the loudest unhappiest of them all. Their economy was **** and the world hated them. That was a whole country to avoid.

Its a good law but its sorta cruel.

Still, I haven't seen one of my good bros in a while, he's been on hard times. But he's on hard times because hes hooked on pharms. I haven't seen him in about 6 months, and ran into him not to long ago. He gave me guilt trips for not hanging out, blah blah blah, and then tells me he's selling heroin now and is hooked on that. Then hits me up for some money. Yah..too be avoided. I hate to say it, but I gotta stay away from all of that.

My old business partner lost her job and is working at Lowes, all she does is complain about how ****ty her job is instead of working on the business she owns. I left and started my own business and its supporting me for now that I lost my job. She always had a very negative attitude, and I had to drop her because her attitude affected her actions (ie. she never got anything done because it wasn't gonna work, so why bother). Now that I'm making a living she's interested in working with me. She always used to critize me for reading self help books or success books. I told her, as you read so you think, and as a man thinkth so he becomes. She doesn't read at all, so that tells you everything right there.

I have noticed that a negative mindset leads to negative actions. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions. The unhappy and unlucky are going down a negative road.

 

[Warrior74]

I though of Hitler while reading this. This guys seduced the entire nation. Honestly it is true to some extend. Ask yourself, why would you be drawn to this miserable people in the first place? Misery loves company, yet ideas are what really infects people's minds. You are just that much more suscseptible to it. If you are happy yourself, I dont see how someone can trick you into depression. One also should not ignore that our peers change us- so yeah, you should choose wisely. It's easy to sell misogyny on this site, isn't it?

The entire nation of Germany was unhappy at that point, he was just the loudest unhappiest of them all. Their economy was **** and the world hated them. That was a whole country to avoid.

Its a good law but its sorta cruel.

Still, I haven't seen one of my good bros in a while, he's been on hard times. But he's on hard times because hes hooked on pharms. I haven't seen him in about 6 months, and ran into him not to long ago. He gave me guilt trips for not hanging out, blah blah blah, and then tells me he's selling heroin now and is hooked on that. Then hits me up for some money. Yah..too be avoided. I hate to say it, but I gotta stay away from all of that.

My old business partner lost her job and is working at Lowes, all she does is complain about how ****ty her job is instead of working on the business she owns. I left and started my own business and its supporting me for now that I lost my job. She always had a very negative attitude, and I had to drop her because her attitude affected her actions (ie. she never got anything done because it wasn't gonna work, so why bother). Now that I'm making a living she's interested in working with me. She always used to critize me for reading self help books or success books. I told her, as you read so you think, and as a man thinkth so he becomes. She doesn't read at all, so that tells you everything right there.

I have noticed that a negative mindset leads to negative actions. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions. The unhappy and unlucky are going down a negative road.

 

[xdreamz]

this law of power is true. hard to maintain if you are a guy of good intentions. when i moved into my new apt, my neighbor jumped into my room and began to try to start using my computer in an offer to help me connect the internet. i'm a generous guy at times so i decide to let him use it a bit. at the same time he opens up, tells me that his wife broke up with him and his computer has been in the shop for months. this raised some flags. i thought nothing of it so we progressed as friends. his income was low but he was polite and generous so i thought it would be ok. he's also going to move to another place supposedly after giving the landlord his owed money. his mood was always lethargical and depressed.

we went to the bar and there was this beautiful bartender so i proceeded to ask her age, on this occasion my neighbor lashed bitterly "why are you hitting on her!?" he then began to interpret her response as a "**** off" ... we started arguing so much that I had to tell him to walk ahead on our way back home.

few days later I realized my computer had caught a virus. funny that he mentions that his friend on the phone is also yelling at him for giving him a virus.

second time we went to the same bar i was lazy, not in the mood to socialize but he had this routine behaviour of always talking to the damn security guards whom he regarded as his friends. while i was waiting for him to leave he started speaking loudly "why aren't you hitting on girls?! don't you want sex!?"... this was the last straw. he had succesfully made me hate him with a passion.

now i just ignore him.