"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"Average looking" is a subjective term

mahon83050

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I am tired of reading things on the internet about hot looking people and average looking people, etc. E.G. "When hot guys date average looking women, they leave nothing for us average guys."

Isn't there a happy median in between average and hot?

In my definition, average means you are not ugly, but there is nothing really attractive about you either. You are kind of just there.

Do some people only consider those that are extremely attractive as "hot" and everyone else average or ugly?

IMHO, I see things like this:

Ugly- You are ugly and noticeably so. Most people will look at you and say, man that guy/girl is ugly. MOST young people DO NOT fit this category.

Average- You are a step above the ugly person, but there is nothing really attractive about you either. ALOT of young people fall into this category.

Above Average/Attractive- You are not extremely attractive, but you are attractive looking. You have some minor facial flaws. ALOT of young people fall into this category.

Extremely attractive/striking- Everyone takes notice when you walk into a room, because you have the perfect body/face. You are genetically blessed. These are the people who are models, are private dancers or are on soap operas. E.g, Natalie Portman and Brad Pitt. MOST people DO NOT fall into this category.

Do you agree with the way I see things, or do you have other theories?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DJDamage

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mahon83050 said:
Do you agree with the way I see things, or do you have other theories?
In the end it comes down to what do you think of yourself. Who gives a sh1t what others think of you? can you actually read their mind?!

This obsessive view of what is hot and what is not, its what chicks do. Some chicks will find you good looking and some will not. Live with it.
 

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In my definition, average means you are not ugly, but there is nothing really attractive about you either. You are kind of just there.
Inaccurate definition: The average person (in most populations) is fairly attractive (imo)! To be unattractive-looking, you must be either fat or genetically unlucky.
 
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