David Deangelo talked about being on your "path" or purpose. A purposeful man is attractive, confident. He doesn't wander about purposelessly. If a woman strings him about, he doesn't play along because he has better things to do. He does what he does with authority because he knows it is part of his purpose, and he knows his purpose is more important than what people think of him.
It's important to have authority with whatever you do. It's a simple model of society: there are people who lead, and people who let other people lead them. The leading isn't even done consciously; simply, if you are sure of yourself, people who aren't sure of themselves will look to you for what they should do: what is "normal" to do. They look to you for their validation, because you don't look to them for validation. Incidentally, this gets women hot. If a women looks to you for what to do, and what to do happens to be hot and heavy down by da fire, she will submit to the stronger will. This is the dance of the sexes, the way it was made by nature.
Rick H. said: you can get away with anything if you do it with enough authority. The more you believe in yourself, the more other people will believe that what you do is right. A person with authority, say, a policeman, could go into the "private door" in a restaurant, no-one would say anything. A little scared kid could sneak in, and they'd shoo him out. The difference? Authority.
How does this apply to having a path or purpose? Because a purpose gives you authority. You have to look to something for what to do. You can look to others, or you can look to yourself, your purpose. If you have a purpose you lead, if you don't, you are a part of someone else's purpose: you are lead.
So what's your purpose? David DeAngelo said, "spend an hour every day in a dark room and think about it until you finally have it, because your purpose is one of the most important things in your life". His was "to evolve". Someone else's was "to heal others".
I had a go and came up with something, the "common denominator" in all my hopes and dreams you could say. Only, it was complicated, and it didn't really fit perfectly. I've thrown that away now. Let's face it, if you try hard enough you can think of a reason why George Bush is in fact John F. Kennedy. If you spent a week in a dark room trying, you'd probably be able to write a book about it. If a purpose doesn't come to you after some time, you don't have one to find.
But it doesn't need to be a grand purpose encompassing your whole life! That's what he missed. If you have a purpose to make a lot of money, do well in a job or pastime, to grow as a man, become a DJ, or just live a kick ass life, you'll have authority in it to follow. You'll be sure of your actions, and know what you agree with and what you don't agree with.
So, in the end, it means be passionate and don't do anything by half measures. Be your own authority and know what you want to do, what you need to do, what you don't need. Everyone should have the purpose of living a kick ass life (among anything else you might want to add). If you are focused on this, you will know what to do. You no longer wander in circles. Everything you do has a purpose. If someone gives you sh'it, you laugh, because he doesn't matter sh'it to you. You just walk away.
Know what you want to achieve with every action you make.
Forget rules. Rules are other people's opinions made law. You are your own law. You are your own authority. You are your own leader.
It's important to have authority with whatever you do. It's a simple model of society: there are people who lead, and people who let other people lead them. The leading isn't even done consciously; simply, if you are sure of yourself, people who aren't sure of themselves will look to you for what they should do: what is "normal" to do. They look to you for their validation, because you don't look to them for validation. Incidentally, this gets women hot. If a women looks to you for what to do, and what to do happens to be hot and heavy down by da fire, she will submit to the stronger will. This is the dance of the sexes, the way it was made by nature.
Rick H. said: you can get away with anything if you do it with enough authority. The more you believe in yourself, the more other people will believe that what you do is right. A person with authority, say, a policeman, could go into the "private door" in a restaurant, no-one would say anything. A little scared kid could sneak in, and they'd shoo him out. The difference? Authority.
How does this apply to having a path or purpose? Because a purpose gives you authority. You have to look to something for what to do. You can look to others, or you can look to yourself, your purpose. If you have a purpose you lead, if you don't, you are a part of someone else's purpose: you are lead.
So what's your purpose? David DeAngelo said, "spend an hour every day in a dark room and think about it until you finally have it, because your purpose is one of the most important things in your life". His was "to evolve". Someone else's was "to heal others".
I had a go and came up with something, the "common denominator" in all my hopes and dreams you could say. Only, it was complicated, and it didn't really fit perfectly. I've thrown that away now. Let's face it, if you try hard enough you can think of a reason why George Bush is in fact John F. Kennedy. If you spent a week in a dark room trying, you'd probably be able to write a book about it. If a purpose doesn't come to you after some time, you don't have one to find.
But it doesn't need to be a grand purpose encompassing your whole life! That's what he missed. If you have a purpose to make a lot of money, do well in a job or pastime, to grow as a man, become a DJ, or just live a kick ass life, you'll have authority in it to follow. You'll be sure of your actions, and know what you agree with and what you don't agree with.
So, in the end, it means be passionate and don't do anything by half measures. Be your own authority and know what you want to do, what you need to do, what you don't need. Everyone should have the purpose of living a kick ass life (among anything else you might want to add). If you are focused on this, you will know what to do. You no longer wander in circles. Everything you do has a purpose. If someone gives you sh'it, you laugh, because he doesn't matter sh'it to you. You just walk away.
Know what you want to achieve with every action you make.
Forget rules. Rules are other people's opinions made law. You are your own law. You are your own authority. You are your own leader.