"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Authentic Confidence with Girls

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Have you ever found yourself thinking like:

- I can't keep conversations with girls that I like alive (club situations)
- I can't offer adventure and excitement to girls
- I can't dance with a hot girl so that we both have fun and enjoy herself
- I can't create fun in a group of friends and especially on the dance floor
- All my other friends can keep the girls interested, only I can't do that

I recently realized I have this problem. When this kind of thoughts come into my mind, it really gets ugly, you know what I'm talking about. And I know for sure that they are all not true, it's just a complex of mine, just in my mind, but still I can't get over them.
I remember after the first time I had sex in my life, it was such an ease for me, I felt accepted by girls, worthy of their affection and very confident. Now it's been almost three years since the last time I had sex. And I'm wondering if it has something to do with it. Actually I know it has, it's a vicious cycle: I can't get any girls because I have these negative thoughts and I have them because I can't get any girls!
So my question is how do I break free? Should I f*** any girl I can get my hands on so that I could regain my lost (or maybe forgot?) confidence after 3 years of chumpdom? Or maybe there is another way? I do believe it will help, but it just doesn't seem right to feel this need of acceptance from girls. I really don't believe that authentic confidence has to come from their acceptance.
I would appreciate any suggestions, opinions from you Master DJs!

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nobody answer my questin? :trouble:
 
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Erm, stop TRYING to do all of those things. What are you, their personal entertainer?

It's actually not a lot of EFFORT to get a girl to like you.

Sit back, relax, get your body language in shape.

Say something if you feel like it and if you do, say what you FEEL with no regard for what they think.

Start with that.
 
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I liked alphathree's response. I also have another thing that I started using recently in one of my situations.

I tell myself "true confidence is not knowing I can get her, true confidence is knowing I'll be fine if I don't."
 
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I didnt read your post but if its about gaing confidence with girls i will tell you the easiest way. YOU MUST **** SLAP 10 girls a day for 1 week.

So when your walking down the street pull your penis out run up to a girl jump and slap her with it.

I learnt this from my Sensai its a secret ninja tradition dating back to the 14th century.

Ninja Out
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Black_Italian
I didnt read your post but if its about gaing confidence with girls i will tell you the easiest way. YOU MUST **** SLAP 10 girls a day for 1 week.

So when your walking down the street pull your penis out run up to a girl jump and slap her with it.

I learnt this from my Sensai its a secret ninja tradition dating back to the 14th century.

Ninja Out
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Yes it is true exposing your private parts to strangers on the street is the best way to build confidence.
 
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Originally posted by Black_Italian
I didnt read your post but if its about gaing confidence with girls i will tell you the easiest way. YOU MUST **** SLAP 10 girls a day for 1 week.

So when your walking down the street pull your penis out run up to a girl jump and slap her with it.

I learnt this from my Sensai its a secret ninja tradition dating back to the 14th century.

Ninja Out
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your such a fcuking stupid muppet Black Italian but yet I keep on laughing!!

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 
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Hey man,

don't take any of this advice. Do something that you yourself feel is a good idea, if you **** up, it'll mean more to you.

forget all this, ****y and funny, alpha-male bollox, just do what you wanna do, free from fear and laziness.
 
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Thank you all for your answers (especially Black_Italian, I showld really try that some time, but you see, I gotta learn from a master at it, like... you? :)
Actually what I wanted to know is if you think it's a good idea to f*** just any girl, would that bring confidence and blow away all the self-destructing thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Heyjose25points your box is full, so I'm posting here my reply.

No, the replies did not help me, what helped me was me thinking about it and realizing that getting laid will bring me confidence, but not the authentic confidence I'm looking for. Think about it, many guys here that get laid a lot are really confident and have good thoughts about themselves, but what happens if you take all the girls away so they don't receive the acceptance from girls? They won't feel validated anymore and will turn into wbafcs and worse. What I have to do is to find out how to build myself a really strong character and cultivate the real confidence that will help me become the man I want to become.
 
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