Aura: Journey and Journal of a Pimp In Training :)

[aura]

Labor Day Weekend:

I went to two parties this weekend consecutively on the same night. In retrospect, I should've stayed at the first, even though the girls were not especially hot, since they were so receptive.

Party #1:

I show up around 8:30, and my buddy, the only person I know except from the host, is late, so I work the room a bit, not feeling completely comfortable. There are lots of cougars and milf's and the atmosphere is mellow and very friendly.

I join a group of several guys and 1 girl, just to be in with any group. I'm wondering if I should leave immediately as there don't seem to be very many attractive women in the room.

(Hot Asian Girl)
As I turn around looking for my friend, I see a woman standing right in front of me. She is just staring, with an almost doe in the headlights look in her eyes. I just stare at her for the longest, wondering what she wants. She walks past saying she is getting a drink.

She gets a drink, then I see her again, facing me and staring away. I finally smile and she says hi, looking very relieved. We chit chat for a bit, she is very nervous. Her eyes are darting about left and right, and her feet are shuffling in all sorts of random directions.

We chit chat and I ask her what she likes to do for fun. She says she likes to play tennis. I tell her tennis is my favorite sport. She stares with disapproval, fearing that I am lying to her. She says abruptly that she has to go find her friend. It's a pity that people assume others are lying. Sometimes they're telling the truth.

My buddy shows up. Bro-mance hi fives and dude where you been?!?

(Asian cougar)
The prospects are not that enticing. I ask him if he sees anything good. He points to an Asian cougar who has seated herself besides me at the bar. I open her, and she is receptive although a bit shy. "I look like someone you know? I hope it's a good person," she says.

I pull my friend in, but she immediately counters by pulling HER girlfriend in, to even the ratio. Everyone in the group accuses me of being a player, and the two girls volunteer to be my "wing girls" for the night.

My bud says: "dude! they just met you and they're volunteering to get women for you!"

We all go dancing at the big club right next door (two stories). At this point, I know I have a guaranteed lay, but I also have another party to go to, which potentially has hotter chicks.

I tell them that I'm scheduled to be another party, and the girl I approached tells me not to go. She says she knows some of the people, and they are snooty and superficial (meaning younger and hotter).

I decide to stick around for a while, but really curious about the second party. On the dance floor, the Asian girl is looking quite hot. She has taken off her sweater and showing off her body. The 20 something douchebags are taking notice and drooling.

Loads of lonely guys eye (dance floor vultures) us jealously, looking angry and sad. I am having a great time. But my curiosity is getting the better of me, so I say my goodbyes. Everyone in my group is looking pissed....

 

[aura]

So I dash off to the second party, and realize right away, I should not have left the first one lol. There's just no point in starting over again if you're already on a roll....

There are quite a few pretty girls here, but the ratio is quite bad. 3 or 4 guys talking to every girl, no exceptions. Most in attendance are already acquainted, so it's too much drama to try to isolate.

The guys are ****blocking and desperately competing, pretty much guaranteeing failure for everyone. I try to befriend everyone, guys and gals alike. Once I get some momentum going, more guys run in to ****block, it was terrible.

Lots of young girls, heavy shields, desperate guys ****blocking, pretty pathetic scene. It's also heavily cliqueish, with people not wanting to talk to one another without an introduction or prior acquaintance.

The only girl who made an effort to me was a tall, thin, very pretty blonde, who grabbed me gently by the arm. I was so intent on trying to scramble for the other girl's attention, I barely noticed her.

Anyway, two very pretty girls did approach me tonight so I certainly had my chances. The best bet was a cougar chick who I should've stayed with to begin with.


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[aura]

I just had a realization about the second party.

First of all, several of them were pretty cool, as two of them introduced me to some of the cuter girls at the party. Unfortunately, as I said, the situation degenerated as the guys largely gave into their desperation and we all wound up ****blocking each other.

Second, as cold and reserved as the girls seemed to be, the one I was gaming me and vice versa, gave me a major IOI which I completely missed.

I told her to guess what I did for work. She said: "you're a pimp?"

I acted all offended and she backed off quickly from the idea as well. I should have realized what a strong green light this was, and that she thought I had some serious prowess with the ladies.

Interestingly, everyone in my group at the first party said pretty much the same thing, although with slightly different language.

Interesting.

 

[aura]

I was out of town and tried a freestyle "street" pickup. I got lost on my way to a meeting and asked one of the pretty girls walking for some directions.

She was quite a bit friendlier than I expected. Nowadays, a lot of people won't even speak to you if you ask for directions. She was smiling, and even walked up to my car. She then stuck her head inside. And we chit chatted for a minute about the area.

I thought what the f---. I said I would be going to a party later and asked her to join me. She said "ummmmm, no, I've actually got plans, I'm going to dinner with some friends..."

I thanked her and was on my way, lol. I guess I could have pushed a little harder, you never know.

 

[aura]

Had sooo much fun, but still no same night sex.

First stop: a social mixer with some very nice, very cool, chill people. Four girls chatted me up introduced themselves, but none were especially attractive. They were all very sweet though. The cutest girl there moseys up to my side and I chat her up and she starts to laugh, giggle uncontrollably every time I attempt a "joke?"

I had gotten to this party very late, and some guy had been chatting her up for like 3 hours before I even got there. She wouldn't give him her number, although she took his.

The three of us are the last three at the party. I was about to bail, but she invited me to sit down and talk. Now, the two of us guys are just waiting to see who will leave first, lol.

I'm getting sick of this. We're both passively trying to see who will "get the girl." As it turns out, the other guy offers her a ride, and then I do as well, but his car is closer.

Anyway, still a fun party as girls took turns approaching me, and I got invited to several after parties in the evening, in addition to my normal invites from friends.

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I meet with some weird f-cking pickup guys but finally come to my senses and ditch them.

Some heavyset girl with a bachelorette party approaches me with a cheesy line and I humor them for just a bit before bouncing off...

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I head over to a bad azzed spot, which is one of the nicest places I've been to recently.

I get approached by a hot blonde, 8 or 9 on a ten scale. Unfortunately she is with her boyfriend and he drags her off before our conversation gets very involved.

Several other groups of girls approach us: what they do is, instead of walking around or behind us, they will deliberately walk THROUGH the middle of our group, bumping into one or all of us. This happened at least twice.

Anyway I'll post more later, but I was just too picky and not assertive enough. Things to hopefully correct the next time.

 

[aura]

One note to myself: stop being so f-cking generous. I was being approached by so many girls, I literally was giving girls to one of the slightly awkward guys in our group.

The thing is, this dork then ****blocked me for the rest of the night. Never again. I'm too nice.

 

[aura]

I slept on it and now it makes sense.

I simply did not feel a chemistry with the girls I met. They did everything right: nice dresses, very presentable, big smiles, laughed out loud at my jokes, subtle but unmistakeable touching. These were and are, lovable girls.

But, I didn't and don't LUST for these girls in particular. Yes, I am tired and distracted, and that's a factor, too. Something was just off.

 

[aura]

I went to a singles event and met a really pretty girl. The prettiest gal there, as a matter of fact. She took a very strong liking to me, but her push pull game was a bit of a turn-off, although she felt she needed to do it to boost her value.

My level of interest dropped sharply I think as I soon discovered she would be playing a prolonged game of push pull which I am not used to. Girls are usually much more straight forward with me.

This girl would talk to me for 5 minutes, then walk away. I'd see her later and she would stare and smile at me (while she was ignoring some guy trying to talk to her). She'd agree to dance, then hesitate while I went to the dance floor. She'd find me on the dance floor, then dance with another guy. I'd walk away, and she would eye fvck me the entire time I was talking to someone else.

Then, she pulled me onto the dance floor to do a stripper dance. Then, she would stop. I walked away and 5 minutes later, she pulled me onto the dance floor again for more personal sexy time. Then she would stop after a couple of minutes because she was "tired." She was turning on all of the desperate guys and they danced with her.

Anyway, by the end of the night, I wasn't convinced I wanted to see her again. In fact, I wasn't that convinced I wanted to date her at the beginning of the night.

My sense is that she was trying to boost her value by demonstrating to me that she was attractive to other guys. But in the process, she actually lowered her value to me (why is this cougar playing games?).

Our frames were clashing: she wants to be treated like a princess, I assumed a more or less fairly quick lay. So, it was probably frustrating for both of us. I have options and so does she. It was a stalemate, and not very much fun.

 

[macallik]

good stuff. Maybe next time you can try calling her out on the bs? Nothing to lose.

 

[aura]

Naw, she wasn't bsing. She was just using catstring theory to boost her value.

If anything, I should be upset at myself for fuxing up a guaranteed same night lay by being too laid back and not assertive enough.