attractiveness of james bond

[kickureface]

its clear that ppl would be attracted to a person like james bond. but is reasonable to mimic his style to attract women? i find it hard since its so different from what we're used to. he's always cool and relaxed, and that just seems impossible. a more common person, say a cnf guy still attracts women but is much easier to become rather than a bond.

 

[BuildingSomethingBig]

Dude, stop trying to act like anybody other than yourself. Bond has a particular style and it works for him because it is congruent with his identity. Don't forget, James Bond is a cold-hearted assassin. Are you? It's like practitioners of Mystery Method that dress in crazy hats and platform boots, and perform magic tricks in bars and clubs. They're acting like Mystery because they think that this is what makes him succesful, but what they fail realise is that Mystery is a magician, and all that stuff is congruent with his identity as a magician. You're not exactly going to have the same success if you're an accountant, for example.

 

[Adone]

Dude, stop trying to act like anybody other than yourself. Bond has a particular style and it works for him because it is congruent with his identity. Don't forget, James Bond is a cold-hearted assassin. Are you? It's like practioners of Mystery Method that dress in crazy hats and platform boots, and perform magic tricks in bars and clubs. They're acting like Mystery because they think that this is what makes him succesful, but what they fail realise is that Mystery is a magician, and all that stuff is congruent with his identity as a magician. You're not exactly going to have the same success if you're an accountant, for example.

This is actually one of the best advice I've ever read on this forum, why don't you make a thread about this, man?

 

[organizedconfusion]

its clear that ppl would be attracted to a person like james bond. but is reasonable to mimic his style to attract women? i find it hard since its so different from what we're used to. he's always cool and relaxed, and that just seems impossible. a more common person, say a cnf guy still attracts women but is much easier to become rather than a bond.

do the things of the type of person you want to become and you become that person naturally.Your actions and habits make up who you are today,change the actions and habits and you work towards changing whom you are.The difference between a wannabe and someone whom genuinly is,is doing-taking action,being.

 

[organizedconfusion]

Dude, stop trying to act like anybody other than yourself. Bond has a particular style and it works for him because it is congruent with his identity. Don't forget, James Bond is a cold-hearted assassin. Are you? It's like practitioners of Mystery Method that dress in crazy hats and platform boots, and perform magic tricks in bars and clubs. They're acting like Mystery because they think that this is what makes him succesful, but what they fail realise is that Mystery is a magician, and all that stuff is congruent with his identity as a magician. You're not exactly going to have the same success if you're an accountant, for example.

FIRST you have to DEFINE who you are.i think that most guys here may have a less then stable identity.for example,someone that hasn't fully developed their identity or personality,may be a little lost and tactfull in how they act and the image they project of themselves.The people with the strongest frames and the most confident,have strong idenities and they know who they are and they are confident in that identity.When growing up,without role models or a strong core of beliefs,who you are,what you like,what your standards are..it's kind a tough to project an idenity of confident and poise when the roots of personality and identity is still developing and somewhat shaken.I say as a start ,write it out.Define yourself genuinly ,likes,dislikes,clothing style,music,activitys..all of which ,create and make up who you are and your personality- it's what makes you unique and who YOU are. don't sell yourself short just to be someone you're not ,just because you think that it'll be more attractive to girls..thats just plain stupid,you're worth may more then that,no girl is worth being a sell out for.no one is worth being a sell out for

 

[squirrels]

he's always cool and relaxed, and that just seems impossible.

As it seems to you, so shall it be for you.