"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tWeaK

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just a quick question here is laughing at anything you say a good sign of attraction, bcuz thers a girl i would like to go out with, however i haven't had any real time to talk much, just lil comments here and there but at everthing ive said so far, she thought was hilarious.

is this a good sign, that i should continue on the persuit or is she maybe jus being nice or some other weird thing?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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anytime a girl laughs at everything you say you are at least on the road to getting with her- doesn't mean you always will but if all of a sudden this girl laughs at stuff you say that you know is secretly not that funny then she digs you
 

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awesome, yea some of it was mildly funny, and some of it was kinda stupid, but she just laughed like it was was of the funniest things ever
 

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There are a number of reasons why she might be laughing...

1) Because you make her laugh, because you have good humour and your fun too be with - This is a good point too start, cause it means she enjoys being around you and that she feel relaxed with you.

2) Because, she has a thing for you and gets all giggley when she's around you cause she is shy/embarassed - This is a positive cause means she must like you quite abit, but on the negative things could be awkward with her.


3) Because she is laughing at you - I really hate this, I had it before and it's not nice..I remember one time I was talkign too this guy and I was laughing at everything he sed,... he probably thought he had built up great rapport with him, but infact it was a private joke with a mate too do with him the reason i was actually laughing at him.
 

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i dont think she was lauging at me, to me atleast it seemed more like she was laughing at something funny, not somehting mean


plus i dont really know of anything that she would laugh at me about, i dont really see her around all that much
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by tWeaK
i dont think she was lauging at me, to me atleast it seemed more like she was laughing at something funny, not somehting mean


plus i dont really know of anything that she would laugh at me about, i dont really see her around all that much

you never know,..make sure when you talk too her she is alone though away from friends..... another reason could be that she is just one of those people who laugh at everything and everyone for hardly any reason lol, but I spect u'd know that if she was.

If you think you are at the 1st example I gave, then u must show her your a man / sexual being.. or else she'll just end up seeing u as a guy friend who makes her laugh.... get talking with her, use mild kino on her,..talk bout other girls just about anything which shows her other people are / have been interested.

After you have shown her that your a man a sexual being and that people desire too be with you,... ask her out on a date / or her number too arrange one (dont leave it 2 long untill u do),...and show her a good time :)
 

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this adds an interesting fact to the whole situation

i work with this girl, however we were both hired for seasonal postions, meaning that the job will be over like a month and a half, so i dont think thers too great of a possibilty of screweing that up.

any suggestions on ways to initiate convo or stuff to talk about when i finally get a good chance?

BTW we both work for a department store (target) if that helps bring on any ideas
 
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Why do u need ideas ? Talk to her one day, and just ask her if she wants to go out for coffee. Its not that hard. But if you make it be so, it will be.
 

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no, its not that im asking of exactly what to say and when, its more about jus if anybody can think of anything to throw in, just anything funny that might have come to mind

i dont think im gonna have a lot of trouble talking to her, something about her seems diff from most of the other girls i know

i was just looking for any quick lil jokes you might have that would work in my situation, nothing big
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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