emotionlikeafuneral
Don Juan
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I have been a lurker for a while; I mainly post over on mASF. But I have a problem with the advice given here in general. Don't get me wrong... Props to all the guys approaching, meeting new girls, making a REAL difference in their lives.
My discomfort starts here in approaches: ALOT if not ALL of the advice here suggests that you should say "hi" and introduce your self. And transition into GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER type talk (normal stuff you would do to male counter parts.) BUT THIS IS WHERE THE PROBLEM STARTS...This is a good start - having the balls to approach.
1) Most AFCs do this, and you have not set yourself apart from them, and run the risk of coming off as another CHUMP.
2) In clubs and bars, where there are high ***** shields, elite HBs will not give you the time of day, because they have been HIT ON, and APPROACHED since they started wearing bras.
We all know that girls are emotional beings and male LOOKS don't REALLY matter. The type of approaches suggested in the DJ BIBLE convey no any VALUE outside your looks. And because looks are literally insignificant, this approach is not good nor does it provide you with the chance to PROJECT VALUE besides your looks to the girl (accept for being confident)
If you have great LOOKS they do nothing for you, besides that INITIAL INTREST, you still have to be than man and lead things.
By saying "hi" or introducing your self or asking how she is or if she has every been there, means you cross your fingers and hope for the best - that she will like you based on your LOOKS or CONFIDENCE. But hot *****es get this all the time. Unless you can follow it with tight game, or have a strong PUA presence, you may get a conversation, be no action.
How do you bros, project value on to your self, besides looks or INITIAL ATTRACTION?
I think the answer is being fun, challenging, teasing, playful, ****y, charming, challenging and confident...
This poses another question....
Just CHATTING to girls, means nothing, it will not guarantee a lay. Think about it this way, the girl may, and most probably is in the mood for a chat, NOTHING ELSE because you havent engaged her limbic brain - it is just a friendly chat - she is not TESTING YOUR WORTH for a partner. You cannot have a chat that will lead to a lay unless you have ATTRACTED HER by being fun, challenging, teasing, playful, ****y, charming, challenging and confident...
Thoughts.
My discomfort starts here in approaches: ALOT if not ALL of the advice here suggests that you should say "hi" and introduce your self. And transition into GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER type talk (normal stuff you would do to male counter parts.) BUT THIS IS WHERE THE PROBLEM STARTS...This is a good start - having the balls to approach.
1) Most AFCs do this, and you have not set yourself apart from them, and run the risk of coming off as another CHUMP.
2) In clubs and bars, where there are high ***** shields, elite HBs will not give you the time of day, because they have been HIT ON, and APPROACHED since they started wearing bras.
We all know that girls are emotional beings and male LOOKS don't REALLY matter. The type of approaches suggested in the DJ BIBLE convey no any VALUE outside your looks. And because looks are literally insignificant, this approach is not good nor does it provide you with the chance to PROJECT VALUE besides your looks to the girl (accept for being confident)
If you have great LOOKS they do nothing for you, besides that INITIAL INTREST, you still have to be than man and lead things.
By saying "hi" or introducing your self or asking how she is or if she has every been there, means you cross your fingers and hope for the best - that she will like you based on your LOOKS or CONFIDENCE. But hot *****es get this all the time. Unless you can follow it with tight game, or have a strong PUA presence, you may get a conversation, be no action.
How do you bros, project value on to your self, besides looks or INITIAL ATTRACTION?
I think the answer is being fun, challenging, teasing, playful, ****y, charming, challenging and confident...
This poses another question....
Just CHATTING to girls, means nothing, it will not guarantee a lay. Think about it this way, the girl may, and most probably is in the mood for a chat, NOTHING ELSE because you havent engaged her limbic brain - it is just a friendly chat - she is not TESTING YOUR WORTH for a partner. You cannot have a chat that will lead to a lay unless you have ATTRACTED HER by being fun, challenging, teasing, playful, ****y, charming, challenging and confident...
Thoughts.
