"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Attraction Via Assumption (AVA)

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I am not pretending to be the creator of this tool, it is a very commonly found belief by all studiers of seduction, i am merely coining it in an attempt to make it more tangible and therefore easier to understand for all the community.

Attraction Via Assumption, or AVA, is a tool, or a belief, or perhaps even a reality, that any given girl wants to fuk your brains out. There is no trick, no method, just the simple act of ASSUMING that the girl wants to fuk you.

Just this one assumption instantaneously creates behaviour that where previously being implaced by concious thought. When you ASSUME a girl wants to **** you, you will kino her, have the body language, even TALK the way that you SHOULD be talking to her to best improve your chances of laying her.

SO MANY TIMES, have my PU's been ruined by my own pessimistic thoughts. "Does she like me?" , "I bet she's just playing with me" , "I bet she has plenty of more attractive guys after her then me" , "<Insert Other Beta/AFC Catch Phrase>", etc. This INSTANTLY closes my body language up, the thought of even touching her hand surges my adrenaline to sky high levels, are there any chances of me making a move? Yeah, sure maybe with half a bottle of vodka, but it's just fools game. Not concious effort.

The SECOND i change my thoughts to "Of course she wants to fuk me" , "Damn she has a nice rig, i can't wait to get her naked" , "<Insert Other Alpha/DJ Catch Phrase", etc, i open up my body language, i KINO her, i dont give a fuk if she doesnt respond to my come-on's i know she's just playing her illogical games and just delaying the inevetable - that i AM going to nail her tonight. And you know what? The more and more i ASSUME the girl wants to fuk me, the more and more i end up fuking her. If I dont? I put it down to the time in her menstration cycle or her gay friends convinving her that im a sleeze. I think this is a good time to add: i never give up on a girl. I know every girl wants to fuk me and i act congruent to this belief, this has resulted in me fuking girls that most people would of simply NEXTED!

Don't "next!" girls as an exscuse not to make a move. IE. DONT BE A *****!.

One important note: When using AVA, make sure your actions are harmonious with your state.

Meaning: make sure you do ACT AS IF she wants to fuk you, this may be difficult at first but the more and more you do it you actually will start BELIEVING, not ASSUMING, that every girl wants you! It has been the biggest step up in my game.

Kino her like she wants you.

Stand like she wants you.

Talk like she wants you.

Do everything in a manner that is congruent with the fact the she wants you

.... and let the good times roll.

"Who Dares Wins" :cool:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ironically, I was actually talking to a friend about this thing the other day... it's very true. :)

You done good Sammo...

AS
 

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WOW! You sure use a lot of profanity especially for a moderator.

P.S. What happened to your signature? It was a good one.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is a good point. So many guys try looking for signs that a girl likes them before they escalate with her physically -- this is terrible. It's like you're looking for her approval. ASSUME that she is attracted to you, and she will be.

-Dan
 

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Thanks for the tip, this is so true, but I forget it far too often. It works wonders. As long as you tell yourself "she wants me", she might as well want you, cuz she most likely will eventually.
 

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Yea, recently I have been working on this mentality. I find myself projecting better confidence and bodylanguage and it keeps my game focus. I like this advice. Sometimes however I do it with my female friends and have the urge to kiss them. I almost went for a kiss, would have been bad news. I kino them alot though haha
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by bluelemond
WOW! You sure use a lot of profanity especially for a moderator.

P.S. What happened to your signature? It was a good one.
.. dude :rolleyes:
Good post Sammo, hope you have been getting my forwarded emails :cheer:
 

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Good tip.

I am convinced that this mentality is the 'secret' of the naturals. Even if they are fat, ugly, (or both), with nothing going for them socially, they all seem to think that every girl wants them. This is the key to their success.
 

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dam nice tip man, thanks
 
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