"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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attraction to average women?

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Like most guys, we're all attracted to the hot babe model type. It seems to me that I am attracted to those women but I can easily lose interest in them in about a few minutes. I have this one friend who I saw as cute at the begiinning but not hot. She has an awesome personaility but never talked about guys/girls and joking around much. I'm sure i'm put in the friendzone already because I didn't make a move. At that time my life was going real bad to add also. I also saw her as cute but not hot like those model type women.

Then time went by and she just looked stunning because I don't see her much anymore. She still looks like she did when i first saw her when I saw her as cute. I asked a friend of mine to rate her because he sees around also. My friend saids shes just average looking. He also said I had bad taste in women and that got me thinking. I still see her as real hot but I feel that most guys like my friend who rate her will say average.

She's not that type of woman that dresses sexy or anyting close to that. She dresses conservatively and whenever I see her I do go damn.

So my question is ... why do i see her as hot and most people like my friend see her as average. Note, I do have good taste and can rate women pretty well but my friend says I don't when I told him she looks hotter than most women. She's the type of person that if she sees you with her eyes, you go damn. Yes, i know that sounds AFC.

I been also trying to get over this women for a LONG time and it's not working well. She keeps popping up in my head.

Anyone also like me had this situation?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You might be more attracted to certain Qualities, not just pure Physical Beauty.
Remember, many guys are easily duped into believing that a Beautiful Woman is already Perfect, has no faults, and must have impeccable character and integrity, morals and ethics.
You may be attracted to her body language. Her smile, and conversation style. Her tone of voice. A certain attractive phyical trait. Her Feminine Grace, and maybe she's just charming to you.
I think it's important for Men to not go looking for validation of a woman to other guys, and try to see(objectively of course) if this woman is doing it for you or not. Is she Hot to YOU is the most imprtant thing. Not if your friends or some stranger thinks she's Hot too. Maybe you know her, and they don't.
There is such a thing as Inner Beauty.
 

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warrior1 said:
Like most guys, we're all attracted to the hot babe model type. It seems to me that I am attracted to those women but I can easily lose interest in them in about a few minutes. I have this one friend who I saw as cute at the begiinning but not hot. She has an awesome personaility but never talked about guys/girls and joking around much. I'm sure i'm put in the friendzone already because I didn't make a move. At that time my life was going real bad to add also. I also saw her as cute but not hot like those model type women.

Then time went by and she just looked stunning because I don't see her much anymore. She still looks like she did when i first saw her when I saw her as cute. I asked a friend of mine to rate her because he sees around also. My friend saids shes just average looking. He also said I had bad taste in women and that got me thinking. I still see her as real hot but I feel that most guys like my friend who rate her will say average.

She's not that type of woman that dresses sexy or anyting close to that. She dresses conservatively and whenever I see her I do go damn.

So my question is ... why do i see her as hot and most people like my friend see her as average. Note, I do have good taste and can rate women pretty well but my friend says I don't when I told him she looks hotter than most women. She's the type of person that if she sees you with her eyes, you go damn. Yes, i know that sounds AFC.

I been also trying to get over this women for a LONG time and it's not working well. She keeps popping up in my head.

Anyone also like me had this situation?
Mate, f.uck what other ppl say is attractive. The media would like you to believe catwalk models are attractive....BS, in terms of natural attraction and a man's DNA, its the hourglass figure we're most likely to go for...but everyone prefers slightly different shapes anyway.

When it comes to the face....well who's to say whats attractive? Rounded, 'cute' like Reese Witherspoon or sharper features like that Ambrosio woman? Blonde or brunette, blue eyes or brown? Does it matter?

There's nothing wrong with being attracted to any type of woman, no matter how big/small or weird looking she is. Its not AFC and it doesn't mean you have bad taste. You may like conservative girls more cos they present more of a challenge. If a girl wears a short skirt and low cut top everyday, she ain't leaving much to the imagination is she? But if she covers up then you are left wondering....and your mind begins to wander....probably why librarians are always so hot!! :D
 

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one thing I have learned... beauty is literarly in the eye of the beholder. I don't date women because she is supposed to be hot (young, nice tits, long legs).. although nice, I date women, or slee with women who have qualities that I like an fit my personality.


they may not be necessary what is defined as being a 10, but it's what makes me tick, and in the end, that's all that matters. I like women with spunk that are womenly.... I don't like feminist based women. I like petite women with long legs...red heads are a plus. hispanics are a REAL plus
 

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To answer the OP:

You've moved beyond the shallow world you've been exposed to. Once you got to know the girl as a person, you realized that she's cute on the outside but beautiful on the inside.

In my experience, all the girls I've dated and fell for have been cuties that I didn't initially notice, but once I got to know them, they became much more attractive to me.

Congratulations on taking another step out of the Matrix.

And on a side note:

FVCK the beauty ideal that's a blonde, blue eyed tall skinny chick. Thats an image put down by the gay fashion industry that think that 8 year old boys are the beauty ideal, and project it onto women.

Give me a tall brunette with big brown eyes that's thick in the right places ANYDAY.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yea i knkow what you mean. However currently i see her as physically stunningly hot. I feel like she looks better than those models. So I don't think it has anything to do with escaping shallowness. Her looks were just cute at the begining but I guess as time goes by, they just look smokingly hot.
 
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