LuckyStrike88
Don Juan
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Hey guys,
At some times i have felt pressure to impress the girls i was seeing and it could be stressful sometimes and seem like an uphill battle. I found it is exactly what you shouldn't do. I combined this with a sort of fear to upset her when she was really interested in me and holding back on teasing and being outspoken.
What i realize that i should always keep in mind is that in order to impress her you don't try to impress her, you actually upset her by pulling controversy & teasing and pass her tests in a fun teasing way. When she doesn't like what you just said and acts fake mad, don't apologize but actually turn on the heat saying things along the lines of her not having a sense of humor.
This has been an awesomely effective frame for me that got some girls attraction sparked rapidly. I just sometimes lose the frame when they actually show interest. And i think it is something they do, even showing fake-interest sometimes to see if you have the guts to keep that frame up when she is interested in you.
I am a niceguy at heart so i tend to drop my frame quite rapidly and allow myself to fall for her when she is interested and appreciate her interest. What i realize is that it is kind of a trap, and that while you think you are being nice and appreciating her interest you are actually ruining it for the both of you.
She doesn't want you to turn into a niceguy, she wants you to keep up your strong frame so she will stay attracted to you. And while being nice and sweet to the girl that is interested in you can seem like a good thing to do you are actually disappointing her, taking her feelings for you away.
I can remember girls in the past getting annoyed and treating me badly after turning nice on her and i would be clueless why. And be nicer to her trying to fix things, this will make it even worse! And ends up her leaving you.
This has probably been the most important thing for me to learn. Anybody that can relate to this?
A quote that really defines this is one by David Deangelo saying "Attraction is not dependent on liking".
At some times i have felt pressure to impress the girls i was seeing and it could be stressful sometimes and seem like an uphill battle. I found it is exactly what you shouldn't do. I combined this with a sort of fear to upset her when she was really interested in me and holding back on teasing and being outspoken.
What i realize that i should always keep in mind is that in order to impress her you don't try to impress her, you actually upset her by pulling controversy & teasing and pass her tests in a fun teasing way. When she doesn't like what you just said and acts fake mad, don't apologize but actually turn on the heat saying things along the lines of her not having a sense of humor.
This has been an awesomely effective frame for me that got some girls attraction sparked rapidly. I just sometimes lose the frame when they actually show interest. And i think it is something they do, even showing fake-interest sometimes to see if you have the guts to keep that frame up when she is interested in you.
I am a niceguy at heart so i tend to drop my frame quite rapidly and allow myself to fall for her when she is interested and appreciate her interest. What i realize is that it is kind of a trap, and that while you think you are being nice and appreciating her interest you are actually ruining it for the both of you.
She doesn't want you to turn into a niceguy, she wants you to keep up your strong frame so she will stay attracted to you. And while being nice and sweet to the girl that is interested in you can seem like a good thing to do you are actually disappointing her, taking her feelings for you away.
I can remember girls in the past getting annoyed and treating me badly after turning nice on her and i would be clueless why. And be nicer to her trying to fix things, this will make it even worse! And ends up her leaving you.
This has probably been the most important thing for me to learn. Anybody that can relate to this?
A quote that really defines this is one by David Deangelo saying "Attraction is not dependent on liking".