"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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'*' Attracting Women With Your Inner Cool

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What defines a man's inner cool?

If images of luxury rides, diamond-set watches, or anything lavish flashes in your mind, you've got the wrong idea about possessing an authentic inner cool.

To start with, your inner cool plays a vital role on how to improve your inner game. It is an internal element which should be exuded effortlessly as part of your identity. If the question to how to feel confident with women still baffles you, this is the only attribute you should consider cultivating.

Anything external is superficial and won't emotionally infect a woman's state, not in the long run at least, as they don't provide stimulus for attraction to grow.

You might turn heads and catch a woman's attention with a concept Lamborghini car, but in today's social world, an intellectual and quality girl is not that easily wooed by a man's financial status only. They want their emotions to be constantly stimulated, and a car only provides bragging rights.

Your car may suggest that you are financially stable, which is a plus to most women if they do see you in it, but the only hearts it'll melt are those of heavyweight gold diggers.

So how can you achieve this inner cool?

First, you have to remind yourself that it is already in you. It's an internal source which can be cultivated, and should be activated throughout the day. Ultimately, this is how to improve your inner game. In the beginning, you will have to consciously work to not "lose touch" with it.

Your inner cool is the feeling that keeps you grounded and leveled. When you feel sane, relaxed, in control, liberated, secure, confident, you are cool, and your body language will follow suit.

We all have control of our inner cool, as it is connected with our inner game. To manage your inner cool, manage your internal dialog, your belief systems. Monitor your daily conversation - how & what you say to yourself. Optimize your internal experience.

Treat your inner cool like a garden - water it daily.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alanswer said:
Isn't 'inner cool', simply what everyone else calls self-confidence?
Self-confidence stems from self-esteem. It's the interpretation of your positive self-image.

Your inner cool lies at your core and is what makes you flexible like water. It is more so a state of being 'calm' and 'at ease'.

But yes, both are equally important and should work in tandem for optimal results.
 
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You state what many others write here in different words, but I still have the burning question:

Some day, when I'm really down or exhausted, walking on the street, manage only a fake smile, I ask myself: How do I activate the cool NOW?

How do you activate it when you need it? You only get it when you have it, but the next day it's gone...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tortendieb said:
You state what many others write here in different words, but I still have the burning question:

Some day, when I'm really down or exhausted, walking on the street, manage only a fake smile, I ask myself: How do I activate the cool NOW?

How do you activate it when you need it? You only get it when you have it, but the next day it's gone...
See my thread here:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=152003&highlight=reset+switch
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Exactly. Peep this thread.

We all have this 'reset' button in us. You can actually fuel your belief that it exists, and GIVE it power.

Your physiology AFFECTS your mental/emotional state. If you're trying to smile, hop around happily, walk confident, yet you don't feel any emotional shift, that's ONLY because you're still consciously doubting somewhere in your mind that this principle is ineffectual.
 

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Well interesting idea but I must say this "reset" doesn't hold long for me if I'm just telling it to myself.

What works very well for me is to just force yourself to randomly approach someone and have a quick nice conversation. That, more than anything, gets me right on track. Or some random event, but we can't wait and sit around for those ;)
 
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