Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Attracting girls your own age

Darth

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Hey..I have a problem and I wondered if anyone else has it. Within the last week...There's one hot girl who showed a lot of interest in me...she's like 20 or 21. There's another girl that started blushing when I approached her and gave me her email. She's 21. There's another girl that was really keen on me when I went to talk to her. She's 23 or 24. All of them knew I was in my first year.

I'm 18. I can't attract anybody my own age. Nobody in my classes shows much interest in me at all. Just the girls in their 20's. And that's too bad because there are a couple my age that I wouldn't mind getting to know a little better, but they are stand-offish.

Now this isn't such a big problem to have I guess, but I thought girls always go for older guys. Is it the fact that despite being younger I am so confident?

Anyone else have this experience? I want to see what we have in common because I'm confused about the theory end of it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Darth

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Maybe. But it's been pretty consistent. I get women in their 20's, even a few in their 30's flirting with me, but girls my own age won't even give me the time of day.

Well that's an exaggeration, but it's frustrating sometimes. Not that I'm not flattered by the ladies, my question is could I be doing anything more to get girls my own age. Sometimes I feel like I have a lot more in common with the 20's girls though, then the late teens.

Just have to wait until I get older I guess....
 

MisterMcGee

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maybe you meet people your own age only in class environments? i know thats the case for me
 

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Darth said:
Hey..I have a problem and I wondered if anyone else has it. Within the last week...There's one hot girl who showed a lot of interest in me...she's like 20 or 21. There's another girl that started blushing when I approached her and gave me her email. She's 21. There's another girl that was really keen on me when I went to talk to her. She's 23 or 24. All of them knew I was in my first year.

I'm 18. I can't attract anybody my own age. Nobody in my classes shows much interest in me at all. Just the girls in their 20's. And that's too bad because there are a couple my age that I wouldn't mind getting to know a little better, but they are stand-offish.

Now this isn't such a big problem to have I guess, but I thought girls always go for older guys. Is it the fact that despite being younger I am so confident?
Yes it is the fact. You are very confident and the girls want to sleep with you. Tell the girls your own age they don't know what they are missing.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MascaraSnake

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Yeah, I've got that problem too (only there's a slight age difference...the 'girls' I attract tend to be women in their late 20s)
 

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Why does it matter if they are 20 or 21 instead of 18? That is a very small age difference. If they're hot, who cares? 18-year-old girls are generally high maintenance drama queens anyway. I would be very pleased that older, more mature women are taking notice of you.
 

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I can see where you are coming from.

Perhaps you act different around girls of different ages. Are you more nervous around girls your own age? Or in the environment where they are found?
 

The Master Disaster

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AKA FLEX said:
Why does it matter if they are 20 or 21 instead of 18? That is a very small age difference. If they're hot, who cares? 18-year-old girls are generally high maintenance drama queens anyway. I would be very pleased that older, more mature women are taking notice of you.
Word, women have less emotional upkeep as they age.

16 -> 18 -> 21 -> 24

Each level is much easier to maintain, and they ask less. God, I won't date any girl under 20 because of it.

An answer to your problem may be that older women have less physical requirements. 18 year old girls usually think they are going to land a Brad Pitt while girls in their 20's tend to distance themselves from ideals and realize they need a man who they can start a home with, so looks get less important, but things like money and power become well more important.

OR

The older women may be more interested in you because these women want to wear the pants in the relationship, and since you are younger they see you as not going to challenge it.

Just my thoughts.
 

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The Master Disaster said:
18 year old girls usually think they are going to land a Brad Pitt while girls in their 20's tend to distance themselves from ideals and realize they need a man who they can start a home with, so looks get less important, but things like money and power become well more important.
Good point. I hadn't thought about that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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At age 18 for women, they go for Brad Pitt look-alikes or something similar. Older women are attracted to guys who got loads of money, so be careful.
 
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