"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Attracting girls your own age

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Hey..I have a problem and I wondered if anyone else has it. Within the last week...There's one hot girl who showed a lot of interest in me...she's like 20 or 21. There's another girl that started blushing when I approached her and gave me her email. She's 21. There's another girl that was really keen on me when I went to talk to her. She's 23 or 24. All of them knew I was in my first year.

I'm 18. I can't attract anybody my own age. Nobody in my classes shows much interest in me at all. Just the girls in their 20's. And that's too bad because there are a couple my age that I wouldn't mind getting to know a little better, but they are stand-offish.

Now this isn't such a big problem to have I guess, but I thought girls always go for older guys. Is it the fact that despite being younger I am so confident?

Anyone else have this experience? I want to see what we have in common because I'm confused about the theory end of it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe. But it's been pretty consistent. I get women in their 20's, even a few in their 30's flirting with me, but girls my own age won't even give me the time of day.

Well that's an exaggeration, but it's frustrating sometimes. Not that I'm not flattered by the ladies, my question is could I be doing anything more to get girls my own age. Sometimes I feel like I have a lot more in common with the 20's girls though, then the late teens.

Just have to wait until I get older I guess....
 
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maybe you meet people your own age only in class environments? i know thats the case for me
 
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Darth said:
Hey..I have a problem and I wondered if anyone else has it. Within the last week...There's one hot girl who showed a lot of interest in me...she's like 20 or 21. There's another girl that started blushing when I approached her and gave me her email. She's 21. There's another girl that was really keen on me when I went to talk to her. She's 23 or 24. All of them knew I was in my first year.

I'm 18. I can't attract anybody my own age. Nobody in my classes shows much interest in me at all. Just the girls in their 20's. And that's too bad because there are a couple my age that I wouldn't mind getting to know a little better, but they are stand-offish.

Now this isn't such a big problem to have I guess, but I thought girls always go for older guys. Is it the fact that despite being younger I am so confident?
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Yes it is the fact. You are very confident and the girls want to sleep with you. Tell the girls your own age they don't know what they are missing.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah, I've got that problem too (only there's a slight age difference...the 'girls' I attract tend to be women in their late 20s)
 
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Why does it matter if they are 20 or 21 instead of 18? That is a very small age difference. If they're hot, who cares? 18-year-old girls are generally high maintenance drama queens anyway. I would be very pleased that older, more mature women are taking notice of you.
 
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I can see where you are coming from.

Perhaps you act different around girls of different ages. Are you more nervous around girls your own age? Or in the environment where they are found?
 
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AKA FLEX said:
Why does it matter if they are 20 or 21 instead of 18? That is a very small age difference. If they're hot, who cares? 18-year-old girls are generally high maintenance drama queens anyway. I would be very pleased that older, more mature women are taking notice of you.
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Word, women have less emotional upkeep as they age.

16 -> 18 -> 21 -> 24

Each level is much easier to maintain, and they ask less. God, I won't date any girl under 20 because of it.

An answer to your problem may be that older women have less physical requirements. 18 year old girls usually think they are going to land a Brad Pitt while girls in their 20's tend to distance themselves from ideals and realize they need a man who they can start a home with, so looks get less important, but things like money and power become well more important.

OR

The older women may be more interested in you because these women want to wear the pants in the relationship, and since you are younger they see you as not going to challenge it.

Just my thoughts.
 
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The Master Disaster said:
18 year old girls usually think they are going to land a Brad Pitt while girls in their 20's tend to distance themselves from ideals and realize they need a man who they can start a home with, so looks get less important, but things like money and power become well more important.
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Good point. I hadn't thought about that.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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At age 18 for women, they go for Brad Pitt look-alikes or something similar. Older women are attracted to guys who got loads of money, so be careful.
 
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